How do I fully let go?? {Episode 95}

Have you finally found food freedom with intuitive eating, but are now struggling with the difficult emotions that used to be managed with food? Listen now for some relief from this food peace conundrum.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • Intuitive eating can feel SO freeing and exciting, but it also can be tough and SUPER scary!
  • Can you sit with the uncomfortable emotions that come up during the intuitive eating process?
  • Emotional eating is a part of normal eating!! The problem is when food is the ONLY method we have to soothe hard feelings.
  • Part of the food peace journey is moving away from diet culture.
  • Give yourself unconditional permission to eat, and unconditional permission to eat food emotionally!
  • Our world hasn’t recovered from it’s own eating disorder yet, and that means that food peace can feel really, really hard.
  • We need more fat positivity in our world. Exploring more body image resources can help mitigate the hard feelings that come up in the food peace journey.
  • Intuitive eating takes TIME. Give yourself some patience and compassion, and know that you’re going to get there eventually.
  • Immerse yourself in recovery… jump all in!! Give yourself unconditional permission to eat, and unconditional permission to let your body be where it needs to be.
  • ALL of our bodies will change throughout our lives, so we need to make peace with our body no matter what it looks like at any one time.
  • You can’t experience recovery until you’re ALL IN! Surround yourself with other food peace and body acceptance warriors to support your journey.

Show Notes:

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I can’t love my body at this weight. {Ep 91}

If you make peace with food correctly, will you lose weight? Have you gained weight with intuitive eating so think you are doing it wrong? Or, that it isn’t working? Does going back on a diet feel tempting due to these body changes, even though you know it ultimately isn’t the right path for you? Listen now to hear my tips on how to grapple with this food peace struggle.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • Some diets are diets in disguise! They pretend to be non-diets, but they still focus on weight loss and tell us that certain foods are good or bad. Even intuitive eating has been co-opted by the diet industry!
  • Intuitive eating can result in weight loss, weight gain, or sustaining our weight… intuitive eating is not about the weight!! It’s about experiencing health, and letting the weight fall where it may. So if you see someone promoting intuitive eating as a weight loss solution, know that this is a diet in disguise, and not a part of true intuitive eating! Instead, this is a part of diet culture.
  • Our weight will ALWAYS change!!
  • We can’t love ourselves thin.
  • Emotional eating and binge eating does NOT mean that we hate our bodies!
  • Emotional eating and binge eating are a COPING responses… if there was more permission for our bodies to be whatever size they needed to be, there would probably be less binge and emotional eating.
  • If we eliminated dieting and a fatphobic society, binge eating and emotional eating wouldn’t feel as out of control!
  • Be careful who’s advice you take in the intuitive eating world!! Not everyone who claims to be teaching intuitive eating has done the proper training.
  • Only our body knows how much we’re meant to weight, and the more we diet and experience weight cycling, the heavier we get.
  • 95% of people regain weight after each diet, and a third to a half of those individuals will regain MORE weight than they lost… making us ultimately heavier. Weight cycling also results in a reduced metabolism.
  • Intuitive eating and the healing process are NOT at fault for weight gain! Instead, it’s the fault of the initial diet, as well as our natural set point.
  • Work towards body neutrality by acknowledging the fatphobia in our society.
  • Fatphobia moves us away from health!!

Show Notes:

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My inner mean girl won’t shut up {Ep 90 with Beth Rosen}


Is constant comparison getting in the way of your ability to make peace with food and your body? Listen now for some tips for navigating this difficult food peace struggle.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • Comparison is natural, but it can really get in the way of making peace with food!
  • Beth Rosen joins for some insight.
  • Body checking and comparison is super common for chronic dieters.
  • How does our inner mean girl reinforce diet culture’s rules??
  • The beauty industry, the diet industry, and the fitness industry ALL conspire to keep us stuck in our own heads, constantly comparing ourselves to others.
  • We can talk back to our inner mean girl and build up our inner girl power so she can fight back! Come up with some body neutral responses to respond to the negative voices that give you unhelpful commentary about your body.
  • Your practice will make progress!! The more often you speak up against internalized diet rules, the sooner your brain will believe it. This is called neuroplasticity.
  • What do we GAIN when we LOSE dieting??
  • Diet’s don’t help us! It’s time to leave dieting behind for good.

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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My mom hates her body and I do too {Ep 87 with Summer Innanen}


Have you hit diet rock bottom? Are you struggling with internalized fatphobia? Do you desperately want to find food peace, but still feel stuck? Listen now for some solutions to these hurdles.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • Diets don’t work for ANYONE! “Success” with diets is not the typical experience. So, now what?
  • Body image coach Summer Innanen joins to give us her insight!
  • Summer’s body image coaching program, You, On Fire
  • Leaving the food rules behind can be really hard when you haven’t built up your intuitive skills to know what you need to eat and how you need to move to feel good in your body.
  • Breaking out of the diet box can be scary!!
  • The transition from dieting to intuitive eating can be long and hard and awkward!
  • What are your next steps? Get rid of the scale and any trackers that make you hyper aware of your body size. You need to tune into what your body needs, not what your body looks like!
  • Go out and find clothes that help you to NOT think about your body and to help you to not fixate on any physical changes that might happen during this process.
  • When you start eating in a non-restricted way, you will probably start eating A LOT more than you think you should! You’ve been undernourished for so long, and your body needs to catch up. Plus, our perception of how much food we need to function like a normal human is SO skewed! Give yourself permission to eat as much as your body tells you to, even if it feels like too much, and be as compassionate as possible during the process.
  • You can’t force balance!! It’s about mental and physical wellbeing, and should be measured throughout your lifetime, rather than in short time spans. You can only see it in hindsight!
  • This is a process of UNLEARNING diet culture, and learning the language of body trust and intuition.
  • The whole world reinforces diet culture, and that makes this process even harder!
  • Food is food, and it doesn’t deserve the power that we give it.
  • Body acceptance and exploring what your body size means to you is key! Still not liking your body is okay, but coming to a place of body neutrality can be so healing. The goal is just to not think about our body on a consistent basis!
  • We are untamable! Live your life outside of the diet cage.

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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Do I stay fit or happy? {with Rosie Molinary}


Do you struggle with body image? Are you trying to find body peace, and to let go of body expectations? Listen now for some experiments to get through this part of the food peace journey.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • Making peace with food comes down to accepting ourselves! This includes accepting our needs and accepting the space we take up in the world.
  • Our bodies are NOT meant to be controlled!! They will change constantly as we get older.
  • Rosie Molinary joins to talk about body image!
  • We ALL have something unique to offer the world.
  • So much of our pain is related to our lack of awareness around our own self-worth. We are all fighting for our worth!
  • Remember, our worth isn’t rooted in our appearance. So how do we find our worthiness outside of our earth suit? We must remind ourselves that we are worthy simply by EXISTING!
  • We pour energy and money into how we physically look in order to feel accepted… but this removes resources from experiences in our lives that might have the potential to EMPOWER us instead of disempower us.
  • Diet culture and the beauty ideal PROFIT off of our insecurities.
  • Self-acceptance is a journey!!
  • All experiences are moments of information, rather than moments for judgment. Get curious!
  • Unpack the internalized messages we have been taught about appearance and self-worth.
  • We have to accept that our bodies ALWAYS change… so we can’t attach our worth to one stagnant version of our bodies, because that will always be in flux.
  • Imperfect cannot exist if there’s no “perfect” in the first place… resist messaging around “effortless” perfection!
  • The images we see of our world in the media are NOT REAL!
  • We have to anchor our faith and belief in ourselves to how we FEEL, rather than how we look.
  • Shaming ourselves NEVER works! It’s actually very damaging, and it’s not health promoting… we have to operate from a place of self-acceptance instead.
  • Remember, self-acceptance doesn’t mean that you don’t want to grow in some way. But it does assert your worthiness RIGHT NOW, no matter what growth you achieve down the line.
  • We’re the experts of our own bodies!
  • Self-acceptance is a super ACTIVE process.
  • How do we give ourselves what we need every single day?

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

Click here to leave me a review in iTunes and subscribe. This type of kindness helps the show continue!

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