I’ve been at a higher weight and lower weight. I fear my body changing again. (Episode 116 with Sarah Thompson)

Are you healing your relationship with food and your body and are coming to the point of beginning to crave joyful movement and gentle nutrition, but are worried that delving into this part of the Food Peace™ journey will jeopardize your recovery? Are the people around you still stuck in diet culture, and you’re finding your relationship with them increasingly difficult as you move closer to Food Peace™? Listen now as special guest, Sarah Thompson, and I give our take on these Food Peace™ challenges.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • Sarah Thompson joins us to break down this week’s letter!
  • Internalized weight stigma and diet culture are challenging to let go of, but it’s necessary to find peace with food and our bodies.
  • Fatphobia is SO entrenched in all of us, and it hurts everyone no matter our body size!
  • Everyone is indoctrinated into diet culture, especially those of us who have been socialized as women.
  • Family dynamics can play a big role in how we relate to food and our bodies, especially if as children we’re made to act in a parental role.
  • Embracing food and body actions that stereotypically have ties to dieting and restriction can be scary, but we don’t have to engage with joyful movement and gentle nutrition in a disordered way! They can be nourishing actions, and they don’t have to belong to diet culture.
  • Body changes can be triggering, and weight loss may make us feel like we’re betraying the fat-acceptance community. Body changes can also throw our body-acceptance process for a loop, making us have to start the process of embracing our new shape all over again. But body changes are inevitable!
  • Make sure that you’re aware of your privilege, and acknowledge it! Make room for marginalized voices.
  • We get to enjoy salads and movement without promising ourselves weight loss and without falling down a disordered rabbit hole.
  • The more that we heal our relationship with food, the less we will feel that foods are “healthy” or “unhealthy.”
  • There are people in larger bodies that have an active lifestyle! We DON’T have to be a small body to enjoy movement, and we don’t have to pursue movement for the sake of weight loss. Movement belongs to everyone!
  • We’re all continually doing our own work and finding our own path.

Show Notes:

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My mom criticizes my body and food choices. (Episode 114)

What do we do when our foundation for Food Peace™ is rooted in negative self-talk and shame? How do we find make peace with our body when those around us are hyper-critical of our appearance? Listen now to get my tips on how to handle this part of the Food Peace™ journey.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • Caregivers have a HUGE impact on our sense of self-worth and the development of positive self-talk. If our primary caregiver is a critical voice in our lives, we are unable to create our own internal compassionate voice.
  • If we have a caregiver with a personality disorder, it can be doubly hard to assert your right to your body. Personality disorders can be super rigid, and it’s important to set boundaries around what is and isn’t allowed. Tell this person that you won’t talk about food and body with them anymore, period!
  • Specifically, having a primary caregiver with narcissistic personality disorder can really effect your ability to have a peaceful relationship with food and our body.
  • Our relationship with food MIRRORS our relationship with other aspects of our lives!
  • Experiencing a foundation of criticism related to our body will have a lasting impact on how we view our body.
  • The “shoulding” inner voice aims to shame us! It’s important to react like a rebellious teenager to these shoulding voices.
  • When we deprive our bodies, they react by seeking out large amounts of highly palatable foods. This is the way our body tries to save us! It’s important to reframe these experiences as something shameful, to something necessary for survival.
  • Compassionate curiosity is the foundation to Food Peace™. Seek out safe spaces to further enhance this journey, including online groups, therapists, and more.

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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Everyday starts out good then I binge. Am I broken? (Ep 112 with Dana Magee)

Is Food Peace™ and intuitive eating your goal, but you’re finding that being in a larger body is holding you back from that healing work? Listen now to get my tips on how to approach this part of the Food Peace™ journey.

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The transcribed episode can be found here.

Episode’s Key Points:

  • Food brings us health and connection, BUT it doesn’t deserve the amount of power that we give it in diet culture. Food can’t really cure us OR kill us!
  • Thin privilege is very, very real! Our ability to heal our relationship around food IS impacted by our size and how the world treats us based on that size.
  • You aren’t “bad” based on your food choices!
  • Food deprivation in our past can translate into our present in the form of dieting.
  • Boys and men are often given permission to take up more space in the world and consume more food without negative associations. But growing girls need nourishment too!
  • Intuitive eating is essential for Food Peace™, but it’s important not to turn it into yet another diet rule. It isn’t the eat-when-you’re-hungry-stop-when-you’re-full diet! It’s about listening to your body and being curious about how certain foods make you feel.
  • Intuitive eating is NOT a weight loss plan!!
  • The desire to be in a smaller body is often about the need to be accepted, rather than the need to actually be physically smaller.
  • Remember, you can still want to lose weight but not pursue it! The pursuit of weight loss is harmful for our health, but it can be hard to let go of that desire completely because we live in a fatphobic society. So put weight loss on the back-burner, otherwise Food Peace™ will continue to be out of reach. We can’t listen to our fullness and hunger cues and honor them if we’re worried about weight gain!
  • Historical deprivation gets in the way of our intuition around food, so it’s important to unpack that with an intuitive-eating professional.
  • Intuitive eating work takes time, it’s not linear, and it’s messy. And the work is never really over because we live in diet culture! You’re not doing it wrong. You’re just in the process like everyone else.
  • Too much of morality is wrapped up in our food choices, and it’s time to reject that!
  • If we don’t eat enough during the day, our body pushes us to eat more at the end of the day. This is the restrict-binge cycle, and to stop it, you need to eat more!

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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My past trauma keeps me from healing my relationship with food (Ep 110 with Julie Church and Kara Bazzi)

Are you struggling to accept your body size, even though you’ve made peace with food? Is past trauma still affecting our ability to find true and lasting recovery? Julie Church and Kara Bazzi join me to break down this part of the Food Peace™ journey.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • Working with a dietitian and therapist TEAM is so important for full recovery! Julie Church, RD, and Kara Bazzi, therapist, from Opal: Food + Body Wisdom Center join us to talk about this week’s letter.
  • Our eating behaviors are coping mechanisms, and sometimes we have to engage in some disordered behaviors to protect ourselves.
  • Shifting our relationship with our body is SO hard, especially when body hatred has plagued us for so long.
  • Seeking healing means there’s HOPE to find further growth and peace!
  • Our world is so, SO fatphobic, and it wrongly connects our weight to our health and our self-worth. Part of the work is disconnecting weight from these other factors.
  • Making peace with food and acting in self-care through nourishing ourselves does NOT mean you will lose weight, and it does NOT mean you’ll be in a smaller body! Food peace doesn’t equate to thinness.
  • Support yourself through this weight bias we experience by finding community. Advocate for yourself, and demand respect for your body! You deserve safe relationships.
  • Interrogate what’s behind the body hatred! Trauma, weight bias… these things can contribute to us not feeling safe in our bodies and disrupt our body image. Part of the process is striving for a more relational relationship with our bodies. Investigate some somatic work, and dig deep.

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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I’m trying to embrace my body but finding it difficult in this moment. (Ep 109 with Haley Goodrich)

Have you struggled with yo-yo dieting, weight cycling, and weight gain? Are you trying to embrace your body, but finding it difficult in this moment? Listen now to hear Haley Goodrich and I tackle this part of the Food Peace™ journey.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • Sometimes we may struggle with a disconnection from our body. Instead of listening to our internal cues, we focus on external measures like calories and other numbers. But we have to move away from this to find authentic health!
  • The world is still really stuck in diet culture, and so we have to guard ourselves against the messaging around us!
  • Support is ESSENTIAL to this process, especially from clinicians that understand Health at Every Size.
  • We have to be sure that we’re getting ENOUGH food every day, and that we’re finding satisfaction from our food experiences in order to feel truly satiated.
  • In this diet culture world, we actually might be UNDER eating! This can make our bodies think we’re starving, which leads to bingeing. Make sure you’re eating enough and eating a VARIETY of foods!
  • It’s also important to make sure that we’ve fully made peace with ALL foods! This is a part of intuitive eating, and will help you to balance your eating behaviors. Having true permission to eat can transform your relationship with food and can even help you to honor your body overall, which can help support body acceptance and body respect.
  • Common aches and pains happen to people in ALL body sizes! If someone blames your knee pain on your size, they’re being fatphobic, PERIOD!! By allowing your body to be where it wants to be, you’re actually giving yourself the best opportunity to heal.
  • All of diet culture is about MONEY!

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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Thank you for listening to the Love, Food series.