I’ve been at a higher weight and lower weight. I fear my body changing again. (Episode 116 with Sarah Thompson)

Are you healing your relationship with food and your body and are coming to the point of beginning to crave joyful movement and gentle nutrition, but are worried that delving into this part of the Food Peace™ journey will jeopardize your recovery? Are the people around you still stuck in diet culture, and you’re finding your relationship with them increasingly difficult as you move closer to Food Peace™? Listen now as special guest, Sarah Thompson, and I give our take on these Food Peace™ challenges.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • Sarah Thompson joins us to break down this week’s letter!
  • Internalized weight stigma and diet culture are challenging to let go of, but it’s necessary to find peace with food and our bodies.
  • Fatphobia is SO entrenched in all of us, and it hurts everyone no matter our body size!
  • Everyone is indoctrinated into diet culture, especially those of us who have been socialized as women.
  • Family dynamics can play a big role in how we relate to food and our bodies, especially if as children we’re made to act in a parental role.
  • Embracing food and body actions that stereotypically have ties to dieting and restriction can be scary, but we don’t have to engage with joyful movement and gentle nutrition in a disordered way! They can be nourishing actions, and they don’t have to belong to diet culture.
  • Body changes can be triggering, and weight loss may make us feel like we’re betraying the fat-acceptance community. Body changes can also throw our body-acceptance process for a loop, making us have to start the process of embracing our new shape all over again. But body changes are inevitable!
  • Make sure that you’re aware of your privilege, and acknowledge it! Make room for marginalized voices.
  • We get to enjoy salads and movement without promising ourselves weight loss and without falling down a disordered rabbit hole.
  • The more that we heal our relationship with food, the less we will feel that foods are “healthy” or “unhealthy.”
  • There are people in larger bodies that have an active lifestyle! We DON’T have to be a small body to enjoy movement, and we don’t have to pursue movement for the sake of weight loss. Movement belongs to everyone!
  • We’re all continually doing our own work and finding our own path.

Show Notes:

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My past trauma keeps me from healing my relationship with food (Ep 110 with Julie Church and Kara Bazzi)

Are you struggling to accept your body size, even though you’ve made peace with food? Is past trauma still affecting our ability to find true and lasting recovery? Julie Church and Kara Bazzi join me to break down this part of the Food Peace™ journey.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • Working with a dietitian and therapist TEAM is so important for full recovery! Julie Church, RD, and Kara Bazzi, therapist, from Opal: Food + Body Wisdom Center join us to talk about this week’s letter.
  • Our eating behaviors are coping mechanisms, and sometimes we have to engage in some disordered behaviors to protect ourselves.
  • Shifting our relationship with our body is SO hard, especially when body hatred has plagued us for so long.
  • Seeking healing means there’s HOPE to find further growth and peace!
  • Our world is so, SO fatphobic, and it wrongly connects our weight to our health and our self-worth. Part of the work is disconnecting weight from these other factors.
  • Making peace with food and acting in self-care through nourishing ourselves does NOT mean you will lose weight, and it does NOT mean you’ll be in a smaller body! Food peace doesn’t equate to thinness.
  • Support yourself through this weight bias we experience by finding community. Advocate for yourself, and demand respect for your body! You deserve safe relationships.
  • Interrogate what’s behind the body hatred! Trauma, weight bias… these things can contribute to us not feeling safe in our bodies and disrupt our body image. Part of the process is striving for a more relational relationship with our bodies. Investigate some somatic work, and dig deep.

Show Notes:

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The Should Eat Fantasy Compliance

How many diets have you been on? When was the first one? Most women have been dieting in some shape or form….or coming off a diet…or preparing to go back on a diet….for as long as they can remember.

Can you relate?

I believe we live in a culture that has trained us to distrust our bodies and think we need to follow orders to pick out dinner options. 

We should be eating this. We should be eating that. We must not eat this after 7, or else…

Or else what?

All these shoulds lead most of us toward shame, guilt and distrust of our own innate wisdom. You were born knowing how to eat and how much. All those diets disconnected you from that. 

You may be wondering, “But I feel so good when I am dieting, at least for a little while.”

Totally. Diets and preparing for them give the notion that things will be alright soon. Just the decision to embark on a diet can relax and calm you. Your head may feel clear for the first time in a long time.

The first few days or weeks of a diet can give off a buzz of excitement and kudos from well-meaning friends and family.

Can you feel it? That’s diet seduction.

And it is just a fantasy.

The reality is diets are only short term. They are unsustainable. This is not just a belief of mine rather evidenced-based in literally hundreds of research studies.

So why do you blame yourself for the diet ending?

If diets don’t work for most people, why do doctors and dietitians recommend them?

If diets are actually harmful long term…promoting weight cycling, higher insulin levels, higher tryglycerides, higher blood sugars, depression, and negative body image….why are they recommended to improve health?

Those are important questions with a really nasty answer:

The world is so fat phobic that it cannot wrap its head around the notion that weight loss is not a behavior. And, medical science has yet to find ONE diet that works to promote health and promote maintanence long term for most people. Even more, this mind control is rooted in white supremacy and misogyny.

You see how people of size are treated in our world: chairs don’t fit, airplanes won’t accomodate, and culture hasn’t provided equal treatment in academia, the military, or employment.

This constant discrimination sends anyone trying to find a way to fit in. To find more ease in a world that says their body is not acceptable.

A fat body dieting is complying with the orders: eat this not that. Do all that it takes to weigh less. Even if it hurts.

And each time you comply with the orders, the fantasy of equal treatment and a better life fill your head.

This is The Should Eat Fantasy Compliance.

This is the reason why you keep getting sucked back into Diet Culture and it is so important. You are just doing what you are told while craving equality and decency.

Unfortunately The Should Eat Fantasy Compliance distracts us all from the facts that diets don’t work for most people and they are harmful. It also distracts us from the biogtry that comes from weight stigma, racism, and gender inequality. 

I want to stand with you radically rejecting diets and reconnecting to your own innate wisdom for health.

This week’s Love Food podcast episode (107) is one of my all time favorites because it gives you the tools to stand up to the villain. In this episode I go through the 4 pillars to Food Peace: permission, pleasure, consistency, and variety. Take a listen here or via your favorite pod catcher.

Until then, call out the real villain. And take off that shame cloak. It is not for you. It never was.

 

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help.

Listen to the Love Food podcast and find new ways to rewrite your fate with food and body.

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Will I ever feel free in my body? {Ep 102 with Meredith Noble}

How’s your Food Peace journey going? Pull up a chair and listen to a letter from a fellow traveler. This person has sworn off diets and stumbles when seeing their curves. Will this person ever feel free in their body? Listen now to hear my conversation with Meredith Noble, and get our tips on how to navigate this part of the Food Peace™ journey.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • The world needs to be fixed, and we need to eradicate diet culture!!
  • Opting out of diet culture is a constant process.
  • Meredith Noble comes on the show to talk about struggling with what we see in the mirror.
  • It’s so normal to understand anti-diet work on an intellectual level, but that doesn’t mean we’re integrating it into our lives.
  • Shame plays a big role!
  • We’re all trying our best to survive in this fatphobic culture… remember, it’s SO normal to feel the urge to go back to diets when we’ve been triggered because many of our struggles stem from this fatphobia.
  • Any work we’ve done before, even if we go back to dieting, is never wasted!
  • Many of us are fine with their bodies… until we see a photo of our bodies. When you feel triggered by a photo, try to change the focus from what your body looks like, to what you were feeling and experiencing in that moment.
  • Part of body acceptance is also making it a goal to look at bodies of all shapes and sizes, especially larger bodies. Instagram is a great resource for this! We can start to dismantle our own internalized fatphobia when we continually expose ourselves to the beauty of larger bodies.
  • It also may be helpful to look at photos of our OWN bodies more often. Take photos of yourself! Take selfies! Learn to appreciate them! And remember, don’t limit yourself to your “best” angles… look at yourself from ALL perspectives!!
  • You don’t need to be fixed… the WORLD needs to be fixed!

Show Notes:

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Food, you have always helped me feel comforted. But I can’t accept that. {Episode 101}

Has diet culture kept you from making real Food Peace™? Did you think you were making progress, only to find yourself struggling again? Listen now to hear a letter from someone struggling with the same thing, and get my take on how to overcome this part of the Food Peace™ journey.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • We live in a world suffering from it’s own eating disorder!
  • Diet culture has infiltrated our society, and the majority of us suffer because of it. 
  • Intuitive eating is a super important step in the food peace journey! There’s lots of research out there now that illustrates how intuitive eating promotes health.
  • Cultural fatphobia: you’re only acceptable if your body stays acceptable.
  • If your body doesn’t get enough food (which is what happens when a family member restricts our access to it), we feel deprived, and we respond by bingeing and hoarding food.
  • When we give ourselves permission to embrace food in whatever way we need to, we open the door for food peace and remove the threat of deprivation enough to be mindful about our needs.
  • We as human beings yearn for acceptance… and that’s one of the reasons we are so vulnerable to diets! They promise us that when we lose weight, we’ll finally fit in and be accepted. But this isn’t true! Not only will diets not give you lasting weight loss, but they also won’t give you lasting happiness.
  • Trauma can have a huge impact on our food peace journey, so be sure to honor that.
  • Know that making peace and “letting yourself go” with food DOESN’T mean you’re giving up… it means you’re letting yourself be.
  • Our relationship with food isn’t health or unhealthy… things aren’t so black and white! The way we relate to food is COMPLEX!!
  • What would happen if we accepted our bingeing behaviors?
  • Food is meant to be pleasurable and comforting! Unfortunately we often demonize that part of our relationship with food, but that really isn’t fair. Can we honor the ways food comforts us?
  • Bingeing is just a way our body lets us know that there’s an unmet need… and the bingeing helps us! It helps us stay alive, it helps comfort us, and it helps us survive.
  • It’s important to challenge beauty ideals and call out diet culture and oppression. Seek out support on social media to help you on that journey!
  • You deserve happiness in the skin you’re in today!

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

Click here to leave me a review in iTunes and subscribe. This type of kindness helps the show continue!

Thank you for listening to the Love, Food series.