I can’t tolerate my changing body. {with Ellie Herman Pike}

Have you embraced body trust, but are suddenly up against a trigger such as body changes? Are you concerned about relapse, and are trying to maintain recovery through a stressful time? Listen now for advice on navigating this part of the food peace journey.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • Our bodies are ALWAYS changing, especially as women. We go through pregnancies, menopause… so how do we engage in body trust when our bodies keep changing??
  • Sometimes pregnancy can help grant a reprieve from an eating disorder.
  • Weight gain fears with pregnancy are so common!
  • Stressful transitions can trigger a relapse… Ellie Herman from Eating Recovery Center in Denver, Colorado joins to talk about how to keep us safe in these difficult times.
  • Anxiety about body changes is normal! Take a breath, and remind yourself that it’s going to be okay.
  • Eating disorders feel so isolating, but the truth is that you are not alone.
  • Sometimes people with a history of food and body struggles will place the stress and blame of new life changes on the body. We fixate there because that’s familiar! But the truth is that this body anxiety might be about something else entirely.
  • Find an eating disorder therapist or dietitian to help you on this journey.
  • Investigate what body discomfort means to you! Does it tend to come up with strong emotions, or with the stressors of life? Sit with that discomfort and fear and be curious about it.
  • Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT): If we try to push discomfort and fear away, it only brings on more discomfort and fear! Try connecting with your values, and continue living towards those values while still making space for that discomfort.
  • Post-pregnancy can be a big trigger for relapse… for new moms, remember that nourishment for yourself is also nourishment for your child! Focus on taking care of yourself, along with taking care of your new baby.
  • Start a gratitude practice to help ground you in your recovery.

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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Can I raise an intuitive eater if I’ve never been one? {with Leslie Schilling}


Are you worried about your ability to raise a normal eater, when maybe you’ve never been one yourself? Do you worry about raising children in larger bodies because you fear they will live a life filled with eating issues and judgment? Listen now for some suggestions for navigating this difficult part of the food peace journey.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • Being in a larger body in this world is HARD. From clothing choices to fitting in chairs, fat bodies face oppression EVERY day.
  • It IS possible to prepare children for this fatphobic world by telling them that you love them at ANY size.
  • Leslie Schilling joins to talk solutions!
  • Our culture is one of diet culture, and so it’s not uncommon to have these fears when thinking about having children.
  • Understanding our own development around food is a HUGE step in learning how to raise children with a healthy relationship with food.
  • Sometimes we have to recognize that the way we were raised was super disordered!
  • Use your nutrition intuition.
  • Be ASSERTIVE about the way you raise your children.
  • Remember that you are your child’s protector! It’s a parent’s responsibility to teach body peace, rather than body hate, and to stand up against other adults who perpetuate body shame.
  • Honesty builds bridges.
  • It’s not our job to change other people’s minds, but it IS our job to be assertive about our own safe spaces.
  • Values upheld by the family help a child to be self-protective.
  • Make sure your kid knows that THEY are in charge of their own body.
  • Kids have to be able to FAIL. As long as they have a safe home to come back to, we can’t protect them from all of diet culture all of the time
  • Baby-led weaning: use family food to wean kids off of the bottle.
  • We are born as experts of our own body!

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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Do I stay fit or happy? {with Rosie Molinary}


Do you struggle with body image? Are you trying to find body peace, and to let go of body expectations? Listen now for some experiments to get through this part of the food peace journey.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • Making peace with food comes down to accepting ourselves! This includes accepting our needs and accepting the space we take up in the world.
  • Our bodies are NOT meant to be controlled!! They will change constantly as we get older.
  • Rosie Molinary joins to talk about body image!
  • We ALL have something unique to offer the world.
  • So much of our pain is related to our lack of awareness around our own self-worth. We are all fighting for our worth!
  • Remember, our worth isn’t rooted in our appearance. So how do we find our worthiness outside of our earth suit? We must remind ourselves that we are worthy simply by EXISTING!
  • We pour energy and money into how we physically look in order to feel accepted… but this removes resources from experiences in our lives that might have the potential to EMPOWER us instead of disempower us.
  • Diet culture and the beauty ideal PROFIT off of our insecurities.
  • Self-acceptance is a journey!!
  • All experiences are moments of information, rather than moments for judgment. Get curious!
  • Unpack the internalized messages we have been taught about appearance and self-worth.
  • We have to accept that our bodies ALWAYS change… so we can’t attach our worth to one stagnant version of our bodies, because that will always be in flux.
  • Imperfect cannot exist if there’s no “perfect” in the first place… resist messaging around “effortless” perfection!
  • The images we see of our world in the media are NOT REAL!
  • We have to anchor our faith and belief in ourselves to how we FEEL, rather than how we look.
  • Shaming ourselves NEVER works! It’s actually very damaging, and it’s not health promoting… we have to operate from a place of self-acceptance instead.
  • Remember, self-acceptance doesn’t mean that you don’t want to grow in some way. But it does assert your worthiness RIGHT NOW, no matter what growth you achieve down the line.
  • We’re the experts of our own bodies!
  • Self-acceptance is a super ACTIVE process.
  • How do we give ourselves what we need every single day?

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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How do I get off the diet ⇢ binge cycle? {guest Judith Matz}

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Are you stuck at diet rock bottom? Do you feel shame about your food behaviors and your body? Are you struggling with the diet/binge cycle, looking for support on this food and body peace journey, and trying to break free from the diet mentality? Listen now for some solutions to these challenges.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • The common experience with food and body struggles is SHAME. That shame can prevent people from getting the help they need!
  • Diet rock bottom: the realization that diets just aren’t going to work anymore.
  • Judith Matz joins to give us a therapist’s perspective!
  • The diet story is always the same, but everyone has their own unique journey. You are not alone!!
  • One comment can lead to a lifelong feeling of shame about the body.
  • People are often stuck in the diet/binge cycle for so long!!
  • By sharing our stories and experiences, we can break out of the shame.
  • Before we start bringing in and stocking up on our forbidden foods, we have to connect with our hunger and fullness cues and rebuild those muscles.
  • When we say we can’t have a food, we are more prone to eating it all!! On the flip side, when we make forbidden foods “normal” and give ourselves permission, they become less special. Those forbidden foods become just like any other!
  • Sometimes we need some help on this journey, whether that’s a group, a therapist, or a dietitian trained in intuitive eating.
  • Food peace is so hard because we live in a world that moralizes food, adheres to the thin ideal, and equates size to health. This work can feel impossible if you don’t have a great support system behind you!
  • Understanding weight stigma is a huge part of this process!! We internalize beliefs about weight and worthiness… letting go of these beliefs about the body can be the hardest part of this process.
  • Weight discrimination hurts everyone, and affects all of us negatively!! It’s a social justice issue that we all have to work hard to change in our culture so that we can find body peace.
  • We pass messages down about food and body to our kids all the time that lead them into the diet/binge cycle, but there are ways to stop this pattern!

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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Thank you for listening to the Love, Food series. Give me feedback via Twitter @EatingPermitRD.

 

The Love Food Podcast Episode 61

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Do you live in a fat body and struggle to make peace with food due to the overwhelming fat phobia in our culture? Are your healthcare providers, friends, and family urging you to lose weight, even though your body size is right for you? Listen now for some answers on how to overcome this difficult hurdle to making peace with food and your body.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • Part of recovery and healing our relationship with food and our bodies is making peace with our body shape and size, no matter where it may fall. This can be a super difficult part of the process, especially for people who end up in fat bodies because we live in an extremely fat-phobic society!!
  • Prescribing diets for long-term weight loss just DOESN’T work!
  • How do we learn to accept and respect our body in a world that doesn’t treat all bodies with kindness?
  • Food peace means learning to be flexible, compassionate, and accepting.
  • We have to learn to trust our hunger and fullness cues, along with our satisfaction levels. But when we learn to let go and trust out internal regulation to tell us how much food we need to eat, we also have to let go of our hopes to control our body size.
  • Sometimes intuitive eating results in a body size that is larger than the culturally “accepted” standard. This whole idea of “too large” and subscribing to the thin ideal is a huge no-no, as we can all achieve health at any size, but this judgment from others can be a huge barrier to food and body peace!
  • Pursuing weight loss and a smaller body is part of what leads to eating disorders.
  • Eating disorders kill someone every 23 hours.
  • You don’t have to experience an eating disorder in order to be given permission to trust your body’s hunger and fullness cues!
  • Unfortunately, trusting our bodies and having a peaceful relationship with food is NOT a normal occurrence these days.
  • Dieting is disordered eating!!
  • PCOS and disordered eating go hand in hand… some people with PCOS end up in a larger body due to insulin levels, and part of the common “treatment” involves weight loss. BUT not everyone with PCOS is in a fat body, so why do we use weight loss as a primary treatment??
  • If you’re trying to deal with doctors while in a fat body, a great question to ask is, “What would you tell a thin person suffering with the condition I’ve come in here to talk about?” This way you won’t just get the standard “lose weight” directive, and you may actually get some quality healthcare that doesn’t focus on weight!
  • Pursuing weight loss is one of the most unhealthy mindsets we can have. The more we pursue weight loss, the more we will weigh, and the more at risk we are for an eating disorder.
  • It’s time we challenge our weight bias!! It’s easier for us to change the culture than to ask fat people to lose weight.
  • Focusing on recovery, rather than weight loss, will help with people dealing with PCOS.
  • I will be launching a special PCOS, food peace course in September!!!
  • Did you know that on average it takes meeting with five different counselors before you meet your perfect therapeutic match?? Keep looking for your best therapist!
  • Online courses can also be a great supplementary support resource, and there are a ton popping up!
  • Can we pursue body and food respect for our children?? So often we pass body hate onto our kids.
  • Over 70 studies show that intuitive eaters have healthier bodies and remain at more stable weights than dieters. Intuitive eating helps people come back to health!
  • If we work towards respecting our bodies, our size will level out at a place that is most comfortable for the individual.
  • Our next episode of the Love, Food Podcast will feature Evelyn Tribole, co-author of Intuitive Eating!
  • Surround yourself with more people who will support your body peace journey!!
  • All bodies are good bodies, and all bodies deserve to feel at home in their skin.

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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