My chronic illness keeps me from making peace with food. {Ep 88 with Elyse Resch}


Are you trying to find food peace, while also struggling with a chronic illness that requires food restriction of some kind? Do you have fear around certain foods making you sick? Have you struggled with the deprivation and binge cycle? Listen now for some strategies to tackle these food peace challenges.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • Elyse Resch joins to talk about intuitive eating!
  • We all are the experts of our own bodies.
  • Feelings of betrayal from food and your body can make finding body trust and connecting with your internal wisdom that much harder.
  • Have self-compassion and gratitude for what our bodies CAN do!
  • Let’s shift our thinking… instead of listing all the foods you CAN’T eat when you struggle with something like celiac disease, figure out all the foods you CAN eat.
  • Intuitive eating isn’t JUST about flavor (Elyse calls it “the tongue”)! It’s also about tuning into how we FEEL when we eat certain foods.
  • Intuitive eating is a combination of instinct, feeling, and thought!
  • How do we use our body, education, taste, and intellect to help guide us in our choices?
  • Healthy eating includes pleasure and satisfaction!!
  • If we don’t honor our hunger, we’ll put ourselves in a situation where we’re ravenous, and then we can’t find satisfaction in our food. Likewise, if we eat without hunger present, food just doesn’t taste as good! It’s all about finding the middle ground with hunger.
  • Feelings of deprivation lead directly to bingeing!
  • Shifting our mentality can open the door to profound healing.
  • Dieting doesn’t work!!
  • Lean into compassion… whatever we’ve done, we’ve done it because it’s what we thought we needed to do at the time. It was a way to cope! We can’t get mad at ourselves for doing our very best, even if it didn’t turn out to be a sustainable path for progress.
  • Come from a place of curiosity, rather than judgment.

Show Notes:

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My mom hates her body and I do too {Ep 87 with Summer Innanen}


Have you hit diet rock bottom? Are you struggling with internalized fatphobia? Do you desperately want to find food peace, but still feel stuck? Listen now for some solutions to these hurdles.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • Diets don’t work for ANYONE! “Success” with diets is not the typical experience. So, now what?
  • Body image coach Summer Innanen joins to give us her insight!
  • Summer’s body image coaching program, You, On Fire
  • Leaving the food rules behind can be really hard when you haven’t built up your intuitive skills to know what you need to eat and how you need to move to feel good in your body.
  • Breaking out of the diet box can be scary!!
  • The transition from dieting to intuitive eating can be long and hard and awkward!
  • What are your next steps? Get rid of the scale and any trackers that make you hyper aware of your body size. You need to tune into what your body needs, not what your body looks like!
  • Go out and find clothes that help you to NOT think about your body and to help you to not fixate on any physical changes that might happen during this process.
  • When you start eating in a non-restricted way, you will probably start eating A LOT more than you think you should! You’ve been undernourished for so long, and your body needs to catch up. Plus, our perception of how much food we need to function like a normal human is SO skewed! Give yourself permission to eat as much as your body tells you to, even if it feels like too much, and be as compassionate as possible during the process.
  • You can’t force balance!! It’s about mental and physical wellbeing, and should be measured throughout your lifetime, rather than in short time spans. You can only see it in hindsight!
  • This is a process of UNLEARNING diet culture, and learning the language of body trust and intuition.
  • The whole world reinforces diet culture, and that makes this process even harder!
  • Food is food, and it doesn’t deserve the power that we give it.
  • Body acceptance and exploring what your body size means to you is key! Still not liking your body is okay, but coming to a place of body neutrality can be so healing. The goal is just to not think about our body on a consistent basis!
  • We are untamable! Live your life outside of the diet cage.

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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I can’t tolerate my changing body. {with Ellie Herman Pike}

Have you embraced body trust, but are suddenly up against a trigger such as body changes? Are you concerned about relapse, and are trying to maintain recovery through a stressful time? Listen now for advice on navigating this part of the food peace journey.

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This episode is brought to you by my PCOS summer series: Empowering Your PCOS Journey. You CAN make peace with food even with PCOS and I want to show you how. This series and our Facebook group will be with you every step of the way.

Episode’s Key Points:

  • Our bodies are ALWAYS changing, especially as women. We go through pregnancies, menopause… so how do we engage in body trust when our bodies keep changing??
  • Sometimes pregnancy can help grant a reprieve from an eating disorder.
  • Weight gain fears with pregnancy are so common!
  • Stressful transitions can trigger a relapse… Ellie Herman from Eating Recovery Center in Denver, Colorado joins to talk about how to keep us safe in these difficult times.
  • Anxiety about body changes is normal! Take a breath, and remind yourself that it’s going to be okay.
  • Eating disorders feel so isolating, but the truth is that you are not alone.
  • Sometimes people with a history of food and body struggles will place the stress and blame of new life changes on the body. We fixate there because that’s familiar! But the truth is that this body anxiety might be about something else entirely.
  • Find an eating disorder therapist or dietitian to help you on this journey.
  • Investigate what body discomfort means to you! Does it tend to come up with strong emotions, or with the stressors of life? Sit with that discomfort and fear and be curious about it.
  • Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT): If we try to push discomfort and fear away, it only brings on more discomfort and fear! Try connecting with your values, and continue living towards those values while still making space for that discomfort.
  • Post-pregnancy can be a big trigger for relapse… for new moms, remember that nourishment for yourself is also nourishment for your child! Focus on taking care of yourself, along with taking care of your new baby.
  • Start a gratitude practice to help ground you in your recovery.

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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Can I raise an intuitive eater if I’ve never been one? {with Leslie Schilling}


Are you worried about your ability to raise a normal eater, when maybe you’ve never been one yourself? Do you worry about raising children in larger bodies because you fear they will live a life filled with eating issues and judgment? Listen now for some suggestions for navigating this difficult part of the food peace journey.

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This episode is brought to you by my PCOS summer series: Empowering Your PCOS Journey. You CAN make peace with food even with PCOS and I want to show you how. This series and our Facebook group will be with you every step of the way.

Episode’s Key Points:

  • Being in a larger body in this world is HARD. From clothing choices to fitting in chairs, fat bodies face oppression EVERY day.
  • It IS possible to prepare children for this fatphobic world by telling them that you love them at ANY size.
  • Leslie Schilling joins to talk solutions!
  • Our culture is one of diet culture, and so it’s not uncommon to have these fears when thinking about having children.
  • Understanding our own development around food is a HUGE step in learning how to raise children with a healthy relationship with food.
  • Sometimes we have to recognize that the way we were raised was super disordered!
  • Use your nutrition intuition.
  • Be ASSERTIVE about the way you raise your children.
  • Remember that you are your child’s protector! It’s a parent’s responsibility to teach body peace, rather than body hate, and to stand up against other adults who perpetuate body shame.
  • Honesty builds bridges.
  • It’s not our job to change other people’s minds, but it IS our job to be assertive about our own safe spaces.
  • Values upheld by the family help a child to be self-protective.
  • Make sure your kid knows that THEY are in charge of their own body.
  • Kids have to be able to FAIL. As long as they have a safe home to come back to, we can’t protect them from all of diet culture all of the time
  • Baby-led weaning: use family food to wean kids off of the bottle.
  • We are born as experts of our own body!

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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I want to hide my bad habits from my kids {with Lindsay Stenovec}

Do you deal with binge eating? Did you experience bullying, specifically within your own family, that relates to your body shape or size? Have you experienced sexual abuse, and feel that it has impacted your relationship with food and your body? Are you trying to set a healthy example for your own children after having a difficult relationship with food in your past? Listen now for some expert advice on how to cope with these body trust struggles.

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Check out this summer’s special blog post series: Empowering Your PCOS Journey. It aims to help you understand PCOS, improve your relationship with food, and advocate for better care. You will be hearing from nutrition grad student Kimberly Singh and her experiences with PCOS as well as evidenced based info to help arm yourself with the most up-to-date research. Find it here now: JulieDillonRD.com/PCOSseries

Episode’s Key Points:

  • Sometimes our family environments can be just as toxic as this culture that we live in… remember, we ALL live in diet culture!! But that doesn’t make our family’s actions okay.
  • Abuse, physical or mental, can have a profound impact on our relationship with food and our body.
  • Lindsay Stenovec of The Nurtured Mama joins to talk about the complex interactions of motherhood and our relationship with food!
  • Processing this kind of trauma is essential… find a therapist to work through these difficult emotions and to help you cope with your past!
  • Sometimes we use food to cope with our emotions… this is totally understandable, but we can take steps to help heal this part of our relationship with food if we find it interfering with us living our lives.
  • We are all doing the very best that we can under our own circumstances! This doesn’t make us a failure or a fraud.
  • How do we feed others when we’ve had such a fraught relationship with food and body ourselves?
  • As parents, we do our best to shield our children from pain, especially from pain that we have experienced ourselves. Many mamas are trying to shield their children from the pain that they themselves experienced in relation to food and body… but sometimes this backfires when parents do so by trying to get their children to lose weight or to eat in a “perfect” way.
  • Feeling acceptable is SO important to finding body peace and body trust! Instead of repeating the same cycle of trying to control your own child’s food intake or body shape, focus on the unconditional acceptance you have for your child and help them to foster this body acceptance in themselves, no matter the outside influences.
  • We should ALWAYS feel safe at home, even if we live in diet-culture world!
  • We’re all just doing the best that we can!!
  • What does it mean to eat in a “healthy” way? How do we make peace with food and our bodies?
  • Ellyn Satter’s definition of normal eating is a helpful resource!!
  • Healthy eating is more about being connected to life, not about what we put in our bodies.
  • Our relationship with food and our bodies is about very complicated, difficult, and personal truths. It has to do with the food, but it also doesn’t! Our past has a HUGE impact on all of this, and it’s SO important to find support around figuring all of this stuff out. Find a trauma, Health at Every Size, and eating-disorder-trained therapist or dietitian to help you along this journey!!
  • Raising children brings up the difficult parts in ourselves that still need more work.
  • Going to therapy is a BRAVE choice! It is hard, but it gives us the tools to move forward in our lives and find healing.
  • Stress, discomfort, and feeling like a fraud are messages from our body! These emotions mean there is something that needs to be addressed within.
  • Secretive eating, shame, and hiding of food is an understandable reaction to growing up in an environment that body and food shamed you! The important question is not, “How do I stop,” but, “What do these actions tell me about my needs?”
  • Sometimes we don’t learn sustainable coping skills as a child… therapy can help us bolster our toolbox of coping mechanisms as adults!
  • Normal eating is FLEXIBLE!!! Normal eating is trusting our body to make up for our “mistakes” in our eating, and being compassionate about our choices.
  • In the end, it is JUST food.
  • When you trust your body to take care of yourself, it’ll do the best that it can.

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

Click here to leave me a review in iTunes and subscribe. This type of kindness helps the show continue!

Thank you for listening to the Love, Food series.