Am I doing enough to protect my kids from body hate?? {Episode 103 with Anna Lutz}


Are you trying to protect your kids from all the diet culture messaging out there? Listen now for my chat with friend and colleague, Anna Lutz, while we break down how to help our kids be resilient against this disordered culture.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • It’s January, and diet culture is EVERYWHERE! I worry a lot about the messages my kids are getting from these commercials and programs… Anna Lutz joins us today to talk about protecting our children from all the diet culture out there!!
  • There’s SO much of raising children that we don’t have any control over. There’s only so much we can do to protect our kids from so many things, from diet culture to bullying.
  • Instead of trying to control everything around your kid, focus on creating a foundation for your child to come back to when they’re confronted with diet culture.
  • Remember, we can do all the “right things,” but their genetics and personality can also play a role in how susceptible they are to diet culture.
  • We can’t change the way the culture perceives our kids’ bodies, but what we CAN do is support our kids in their home and give them a safe haven no matter what goes on outside.
  • Do what you can to talk positively about ALL bodies and talk neutrally about food. Model food and body peace the best you can!
  • Try to have consistent family meals where you can connect and communicate with your kids, and where you can model how to handle food in a neutral way. Research shows that this helps them to be resilient!
  • If your kids encounter fatphobia and tell you about it, start asking questions! Make them think about it, and start a conversation, rather than just trying to correct it. Help them to critically think!!
  • Remember, you’re raising the next generation! Who knows, maybe we’re making the first group of kids who don’t believe in weight bias and diet culture.

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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Will I ever feel free in my body? {Ep 102 with Meredith Noble}

How’s your Food Peace journey going? Pull up a chair and listen to a letter from a fellow traveler. This person has sworn off diets and stumbles when seeing their curves. Will this person ever feel free in their body? Listen now to hear my conversation with Meredith Noble, and get our tips on how to navigate this part of the Food Peace™ journey.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • The world needs to be fixed, and we need to eradicate diet culture!!
  • Opting out of diet culture is a constant process.
  • Meredith Noble comes on the show to talk about struggling with what we see in the mirror.
  • It’s so normal to understand anti-diet work on an intellectual level, but that doesn’t mean we’re integrating it into our lives.
  • Shame plays a big role!
  • We’re all trying our best to survive in this fatphobic culture… remember, it’s SO normal to feel the urge to go back to diets when we’ve been triggered because many of our struggles stem from this fatphobia.
  • Any work we’ve done before, even if we go back to dieting, is never wasted!
  • Many of us are fine with their bodies… until we see a photo of our bodies. When you feel triggered by a photo, try to change the focus from what your body looks like, to what you were feeling and experiencing in that moment.
  • Part of body acceptance is also making it a goal to look at bodies of all shapes and sizes, especially larger bodies. Instagram is a great resource for this! We can start to dismantle our own internalized fatphobia when we continually expose ourselves to the beauty of larger bodies.
  • It also may be helpful to look at photos of our OWN bodies more often. Take photos of yourself! Take selfies! Learn to appreciate them! And remember, don’t limit yourself to your “best” angles… look at yourself from ALL perspectives!!
  • You don’t need to be fixed… the WORLD needs to be fixed!

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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Food, you have always helped me feel comforted. But I can’t accept that. {Episode 101}

Has diet culture kept you from making real Food Peace™? Did you think you were making progress, only to find yourself struggling again? Listen now to hear a letter from someone struggling with the same thing, and get my take on how to overcome this part of the Food Peace™ journey.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • We live in a world suffering from it’s own eating disorder!
  • Diet culture has infiltrated our society, and the majority of us suffer because of it. 
  • Intuitive eating is a super important step in the food peace journey! There’s lots of research out there now that illustrates how intuitive eating promotes health.
  • Cultural fatphobia: you’re only acceptable if your body stays acceptable.
  • If your body doesn’t get enough food (which is what happens when a family member restricts our access to it), we feel deprived, and we respond by bingeing and hoarding food.
  • When we give ourselves permission to embrace food in whatever way we need to, we open the door for food peace and remove the threat of deprivation enough to be mindful about our needs.
  • We as human beings yearn for acceptance… and that’s one of the reasons we are so vulnerable to diets! They promise us that when we lose weight, we’ll finally fit in and be accepted. But this isn’t true! Not only will diets not give you lasting weight loss, but they also won’t give you lasting happiness.
  • Trauma can have a huge impact on our food peace journey, so be sure to honor that.
  • Know that making peace and “letting yourself go” with food DOESN’T mean you’re giving up… it means you’re letting yourself be.
  • Our relationship with food isn’t health or unhealthy… things aren’t so black and white! The way we relate to food is COMPLEX!!
  • What would happen if we accepted our bingeing behaviors?
  • Food is meant to be pleasurable and comforting! Unfortunately we often demonize that part of our relationship with food, but that really isn’t fair. Can we honor the ways food comforts us?
  • Bingeing is just a way our body lets us know that there’s an unmet need… and the bingeing helps us! It helps us stay alive, it helps comfort us, and it helps us survive.
  • It’s important to challenge beauty ideals and call out diet culture and oppression. Seek out support on social media to help you on that journey!
  • You deserve happiness in the skin you’re in today!

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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I have to diet with PCOS…right?!? Let’s explore PCOS + Food Peace.™

What is Food Peace™ in the context of struggling with PCOS? Listen now to hear my PCOS and Food Peace™ Manifesto.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • What IS Food Peace™ and PCOS anyway? What if we’ve been told to eat this, not that, in order to manage our PCOS? How do we move away from that kind of thinking?
  • Do some of us end up engaging in anorexia nervosa trying to manage our PCOS? Yes! Especially if we’re in larger bodies.
  • People in larger bodies are urged to practice eating behaviors that we diagnose as disordered in smaller bodies… this is a problem! It also points to how fatphobic our society is.
  • Dieting increases inflammation, which is one of the biggest issues with PCOS.
  • At least one in ten women suffer from PCOS, but there’s minimal research funding for it. We need to get more information on this condition!
  • So what’s Food Peace™? Food Peace™ is coming to terms that diets don’t work for you, and understanding that diets are the failure, not you.
  • It’s time to find a new way to eat, and listen to your bodies for the answers! Women with PCOS have a different kind of communication with their body, and it’s my job to guide you through learning that mode of communication.
  • If you’re in a place where you’re struggling to manage your PCOS, you may feel like you’re ALWAYS hungry. The Food Peace™ process is about reconnecting with your intuitive self and learning what that feeling of being always hungry really means.
  • Dieting predicts weight gain and eating disorders, and intuitive eating leads to positive health outcomes. So really, which one is better for our health?
  • Here’s my PCOS and Food Peace™ Manifesto:
    • You didn’t cause your PCOS!
    • Diets failed, not you! Diets are a form of restriction, so it’s no wonder you feel like you can’t control yourself around food.
    • Your weight doesn’t define your health or your worth.
    • Your PCOS has its own language.
    • Notice what helps energize you, and what doesn’t.
    • Self-care matters, and so does advocacy.
  • 25% of our health is due to behaviors, and 75% of our health are determined by social determinants of health and our genetics… this means that stigma and discrimination have a HUGE impact on our health! Specifically, weight stigma contributes to inflammation and poor health due to the fight or flight response.
  • There are SO many of us out there ready to help you fight weight stigma in PCOS healthcare. Come join us!

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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I’m tired of fighting the world to not diet. I’m tempted to try again.

Are you feeling tempted by all of the New Years diet talk? Do you know diets don’t work, and yet find yourself thinking that maybe this time it’ll be different? Listen now for my reminders on why intuitive eating and Food Peace™ are the way to true empowerment and health.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • We know that diets don’t work long-term… and yet, the New Year brings the tempting diet message to the forefront, especially for those of us in larger bodies that face weight stigma.
  • What is intuitive eating? How can it help us to find Food Peace™?
  • The more we try to restrict, the more we feel chaotic around food, and the more likely we are to experience weight gain and eating disorders.
  • This process of Food Peace™ is SO much harder if we live in a larger body!
  • Diets are this big, seductive fantasy designed to keep us stuck in ideas around what makes us worthy.
  • Let’s find a way to make our bodies acceptable right NOW.
  • Diets also hold this idea of hope for connection and acceptance, which is part of what makes it so tempting.
  • I believe in body liberation and body autonomy… you can do what you want with your body! But I still encourage you, when you feel the pull of dieting, to consider what triggered that thought process. Investigate it, and if the root of it is yearning to connect with others, consider that connection is what you really want, not weight loss.
  • Working towards radical self-acceptance can feel isolating! Remember that part of the seduction of dieting is hope for connection and acceptance to and from others.
  • People in larger bodies are often praised for seeking out weight loss. It can help you feel more accepted and create a mode of connection… but that doesn’t mean it’s the right way forward.
  • It’s possible that diets are trying to help you meet unmet needs of acceptance and connections. Diving deeper into the WHY is so important!!
  • Shame is likely a part of this as well, so investigate that and unwrap the true motivations behind this urge.
  • Ask yourself, what are you really yearning for?

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

Click here to leave me a review in iTunes and subscribe. This type of kindness helps the show continue!

Thank you for listening to the Love, Food series.