(130) I can’t get rid of the urge to binge eat (with Isabel Foxen Duke).

Do you feel like you’ve done everything to tackle your struggle with binge eating? Is there a constant battle in your head over cravings? Listen now to hear some solutions on how to overcome this food peace struggle.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • The recovery process is NOT linear, and it takes TIME.
  • Isabel Foxen Duke joins to talk about dieting, bingeing, and more!
  • Physical restriction is NOT THE SAME as emotional and psychological restriction… even if you’re eating “enough,” bingeing can still occur if you feel mental restriction. Diet mentality is the bigger thing to break down when trying to break free from bingeing!
  • Cravings are neutral things!! We don’t need to feel shame about them.
  • Emotional eating and binge eating are two different things! Emotional eating is when we eat something in order to make ourselves feel better. It’s a coping mechanism to distract, comfort, soothe or avoid a feeling. Binge eating, on the other hand, is a reaction to the diet mentality. Isabel calls is reactionary eating! For example, when you tell yourself you can’t have “x” food, all you want is “x” food, and then it results in a binge.
  • Food is never black and white!
  • Just because we think we’re eating “enough,” we actually may not be because we live in a restrictive, diet-culture world.
  • Diet mentality tells us that there’s a right and wrong way to eat. Giving up dieting is giving up an attitude around food that categorizes certain food behaviors as safe and others as unsafe.
  • “The Don’t Binge Eat Diet:” when you’re desperately trying to avoid and overcome the urge to binge, which only perpetuates a binge. Think about a bow and arrow… the farther back you pull the bow and the more tension your build, the farther that bow will fly in the other direction when you inevitably let go!
  • There’s NOTHING wrong with emotional eating!! The only reason why people fear emotional eating is because we fear getting fat.
  • Emotional eating turns into a binge when we decide that the action we’re doing is not okay and feel shameful about it.
  • Quitting dieting doesn’t just mean you’ve put down the calorie counts and the weight loss goals… it means we leave behind the “right” and “wrong” with food.
  • When we struggle with food, we have to ask, where is the restriction happening?? Where is the diet mentality hiding?
  • Not dieting is a physical AND emotional issue! 90% of recovering from dieting is about the diet mentality and diet attitudes, and only 10% of it is about the physical.
  • If you are clinging to ANY kind of wagon, you will inevitably fall off!
  • Permission to binge is step one!!
  • It’s time to overcome emotional restriction.
  • You have permission to be where you are right now, and to meet your needs in however you need to.

Show Notes:

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(128) I’m afraid of relapse while raising my kids.

Are you caught up in the mania that is motherhood? Do you find yourself feeling fatigued when it comes to making decisions regarding your kids’ food choices? Does it feel as if your own relationship with food is being challenged? You’re in the right place. Julie Duffy Dillon provides a heart-to-heart on this rewarding, but often exhausting stage.

Episode’s Key Points:

  • Parenting often triggers many forms of stress.
  • Finding ways to complete tasks in more efficient ways can help relieve some of this anxiety.
  • If you have a history of an eating disorder or disordered eating, you may find these old behaviors and ways of coping return as you are dealing with the challenges of parenthood.
  • Eating for comfort and emotional eating are both very normal human ways of coping.
  • It is not the food choices that are concerning but rather the self-shaming thoughts and feelings we have around the choices we make. When these thoughts come up, call them out for what they are and provide self-compassion.
  • Connecting with a therapist provides a safe space to process your concerns.
  • Gather support from fellow mothers and intuitive eating mom experts.

Show Notes:

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(127) My dad criticized my mom’s body.

Have you been on a diet for as long as you can remember? Do you find yourself feeling confused about food and your body because of mixed messages you received from your family? Are you looking to break free from an endless cycle of dieting and bingeing? Special guest Melissa Toler provides a compassionate voice alongside your Food Peace journey.

Episode’s Key Points:

  • Special guest Melissa Toler, former wellness coach turned writer, speaker, and educator.
  • Our relationship with food and our bodies often is based off of our early childhood experiences.
  • Making peace with food and your body is an ongoing process. Rest assured, you are not doing it wrong.
  • Writing can be a therapeutic tool that allows you to hear your own voice over the external voices that we often hear regarding our bodies.
  • Filter your book collection to include fat positive and non-diet messages.

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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(123) My past trauma keeps me bingeing (with Amy Pershing)

Have you been been making steps towards body acceptance, but find yourself stuck when it comes to letting go of certain eating behaviors? Perhaps, you are one of many of those with an eating disorder who has suffered from trauma? Listen to this week’s episode with special guest Amy Pershing as she helps guide listeners along their recovery journey so that they can begin their healing process from trauma.

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Episode’s Key Points:

*Content Warning: discussion of sexual abuse

  • Special guest Amy Pershing, licensed clinical social worker and founder of the Body Wise binge eating disorder recovery program and the Hunger Wise program as well as author of Binge Eating Disorder-The Journey to Recovery and Beyond.
  • Many individuals who experience eating disorders have a history of trauma.
  • Our culture has not recovered from its own eating disorder. When we are capable of making some steps forward in our culture’s recovery from its eating disorder (and acceptance of all bodies), we can begin creating space to process our individual trauma so that healing can happen.
  • Trauma, particularly sexual trauma, makes an individual feel as though their physical being is not okay.
  • We must begin challenging cultural narratives that perpetuate body hate/fat phobia, such as that an individual’s size predicts their health (spoiler alert: NOT true), in order to allow this trauma work to be able to take place.
  • Additionally, filter your environment/social media: “If an image makes you feel bad, don’t consume it.” ~Amy Pershing
  • Healing from an eating disorder includes honoring what the eating disorder/food behaviors has done for an individual’s survival as well as adding tools, in addition to food, to one’s toolbox for coping.

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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(122 Season 2 Finale) I think about food all day long (with Heidi Schauster)

Have you struggled with a complicated relationship with food, and all its twists and turns, for way too long? Maybe your family taught you body hate and ways to diet instead of enjoying food and pleasurable movement. This week’s letter writer has really tried to heal their relationship with food yet can’t stop thinking about food, bingeing, obsessing, and hating on their body. Can things change? Can they show their young family a different way?? Listen now for Season 2 finale with special guest Heidi Schauster, author of Nourish.

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This episode is brought to you by my online course, Your Step-by-Step Guide to PCOS and Food Peace™. You CAN make peace with food even with PCOS and I want to show you how.

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The transcribed episode can be found here.

Episode’s Key Points:

  • Special guest Heidi Schauster, registered dietitian and eating disorder specialist of A Nourishing Word
  • As human beings, we are designed to think about food–on average, about 200 times per day.
  • When thoughts about food interfere with your relationships and connecting to joy in your life, this is called food preoccupation.
  • A restrictive mindset (and/or actual food restriction) often goes hand-in-hand with food preoccupation, leading to particular foods becoming “charged” and transformed into binge foods.
  • Non-judgmental observation of the thoughts and feelings you have around your daily food choices and interactions with food is an important first step in neutralizing food and healing your relationship with these “charged” foods.
  • If possible, seek out a registered dietitian who specializes in disordered eating. Avoid dietitians that label foods “good” or “bad” or prescribe limitations of foods.
  • Healing from food preoccupation means leaning into your own internal cues and not relying on external methods for food choices.
  • Your body does not need to be fixed. Our culture is what is broken.

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

Click here to leave me a review in iTunes and subscribe. This type of kindness helps the show continue!

Thank you for listening to the Love, Food series.