Intuitive eating never works for me. {Ep 86 with Evelyn Tribole}


Have you tried to move away from dieting, but in doing so have started to feel out of control? Are you worried about “letting yourself go?” Do you feel like intuitive eating will just never work for you? Listen now for some thoughts on how to move forward.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • Diets cause the chaos, and it’s not your fault that moving away from them is so hard!
  • Body positivity doesn’t need to be associated with “letting yourself go” or being overfull! This overfull feeling has to do with DIETING, not body positivity.
  • Evelyn Tribole joins to help us tackle these intuitive eating struggles!!
  • Dealing with overeating when you first start exploring intuitive eating is a common struggle, and it can definitely be worked through! There’s lots of solutions here.
  • The diet industry makes us feel like we’re one bite away from poor health.
  • Remember that the process of intuitive eating and making peace with food is one of discovery and curiosity… there is no way to do it right or wrong!
  • We must connect with the body and become the expert of what own bodies need when we delve into intuitive eating. Clue into what you’re experiencing in your body, rather than in your mind.
  • You can’t make a mistake in intuitive eating! All bumps in the road are a part of the learning process. If you feel overfull, you haven’t done anything wrong! Just explore the experience and discover what is within it.
  • Trust the body, rather than pushing prescriptive rules and decisions. Our bodies have been silenced, and intuitive eating gives them a voice!
  • Interceptive awareness: the ability to perceive the feelings that arise in the body, both physical and emotional (all emotional feelings have a physical response!). Tapping into these feelings can help you get your needs met.
  • How do we move from shame or guilt to curiosity? Pause, and figure out what belief system we believe we’ve violated. Write down the thoughts and rules that we believe we are breaking.
  • Belief systems take a while to break down!
  • Treat your body as an experiment! Allow intuitive eating to guide you to become an expert of your body again.
  • Surround yourself with resources that promote self-kindness!!
  • Intuitive eating research is strong. There is a body of evidence that shows intuitive eating is health promoting!
  • Intuitive eating is getting more popular in the media… but most main news sites that cover intuitive eating focus on permission to eat, and forget about the rest of the 10 principles. We have to make sure that when people learn about intuitive eating, they learn about what it truly is in its totality!
  • When we take away the guilt and judgment around eating, we make room for satisfaction.
  • You are NOT alone!
  • The steps out of this tug-of-war will be challenging, but they will be worth it.

Show Notes:

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I can’t control what I eat. {Ep 085}


Have you been struggling with a complicated relationship with food for many years? Do you feel anger with your experience, and resentment towards food? Listen now to hear some experiments to resolve this food peace issue.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • Recovering from an eating disorder is SO different than recovery from an addiction… we NEED food! So how do we figure out how to navigate something that we struggle with, but that we have to engage with on a daily basis?
  • When we struggle with an eating disorder, food becomes the central focus of the brain. When we pursue recovery, it’s no wonder that food is still on our minds! We have to retrain our brain, and rewire it so that over time, it stops obsessing over the food.
  • Lean into the resentment, anger, and exhaustion! These emotions are present for a reason. Ask yourself, who DESERVES this resentment and anger? This resentment and anger should be directed at our cultural expectations for the human body and for womanhood.
  • Food is there to NOURISH us, not punish us.
  • Recovery from an eating disorder is HARD WORK, and it’s made harder by the fact that our culture still needs to recover from its own eating disorder. You keep getting mixed messages!
  • We HAVE to feel our feelings, and examine them to figure out what their messages are for us… otherwise they’ll keep resurfacing.
  • Even when things feel hard, remember that you are STILL moving forward.
  • Work with a therapist to help you muddle through this stage!
  • Some practical advice: keep some easy, low-prep, go-to foods on hand at all times! Use these foods when you need a break, but you still want to make sure you’re getting the nutrients you need.
  • Food’s important, but it’s not everything. It doesn’t have to always be the most pleasurable or nourishing experience… it can just be food!
  • Food might become boring. That’s normal! Try to schedule a meal or snack once a week that you eat with someone else to help support you through this stage.
  • Food is a connector!
  • Food is not supposed to be thought about all the time. Instead, it’s a part of our lives, and our relationships should be taking central focus.

Show Notes:

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PCOS keeps me dieting and I keep failing.


Have you dieted for you whole life? Are you looking for a way to help manage your health or a health condition, are being told that dieting and weight loss are the answer, but don’t feel that’s the right path for you? Listen now for some new options for better health.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • Dieting leads to bingeing!
  • Diets don’t work… but doctors still prescribe dieting to “help” with all kinds of health conditions. What gives?
  • Polycystic ovarian syndrome (PCOS): A super common endocrine disorder that often is “treated” with dieting. But there are other ways!
  • Dieting is the GREATEST predictor of weight gain and developing an eating disorder.
  • There seems to be some connection between eating disorders and PCOS… but there isn’t enough research out there to figure out why!
  • PCOS symptoms: Hormonal disregulation that affects ovulation, hunger/cravings, hair growth changes, central adiposity, high insulin levels, weight gain. Many of these symptoms impact body image in a negative way!
  • People in fat bodies can suffer from anorexia!!
  • Symptom changes/increases means intervention is needed… but it’s not the time to blame the individual! It’s time to manage the PCOS differently.
  • Be aware of the more uncommon side effects of PCOS (eating disorders, ADD, constipation etc).
  • PCOS is HIGHLY genetically influenced, and there are individuals with PCOS in smaller bodies… so what do doctors tell clients with PCOS to do when they are in a smaller body?? (This question applies to ALL medical intervention suggestions.)
  • Healthcare providers can be extremely fatphobic… advocate for yourself!!
  • If you have PCOS and your cravings are increasing, look into changing up your medication or increasing that amount of protein in your diet.
  • Keep an eye on which foods energize you and which foods drain you!
  • Try incorporating movement into your life, and make sure you have enough food fueling your body to support that movement.
  • Get enough sleep!! Sleep is SO important for an all-around health-promoting routine. Turn off your screens!

Show Notes:

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I have always felt ashamed of my body. {with Antonia Hartley}

Do you feel shame around your relationship with food and your body? Are you worried about disclosing your eating behavior to a current partner or loved one? Do you find yourself thinking about food all the time? Listen now for some concrete solutions to overcome these barriers to food peace.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • Shame is so common in the eating disorder experience!!
  • Antonia Hartley joins to help tackle this letter writer’s struggles…
  • Eating disorders make us feel so alone and isolated, but there are many people dealing with the same issues.
  • Insight and awareness are vital to finding recovery and healing, but it can only take you so far. It’s important to work with a dietitian or other eating disorder professional to find lasting recovery and make changes!
  • Finding a Health at Every Size dietitian to work with is SUPER important to make sure you’re in a safe environment to find help.
  • If you’re thinking about food all day long, definitely inquire if you’re eating enough! Sometimes restriction is physical or mental, and adequacy with food is very important!! If you’re bingeing, it’s likely that you’re NOT getting enough, no matter what size you are.
  • It’s NOT as simple as calories in, calories out. Our metabolism is MUCH more complicated than that!
  • Sometimes there is fear in letting go of our eating disorder because there is a small part of us that feels these diet rules are serving us in some way… but they’re not!
  • “Honesty is the antithesis of eating disorder behavior.” – Antonia
  • Relationships are SO important in eating disorder recovery! Be honest with those you love, and set the boundaries around triggers.
  • Eating behaviors can be a messenger for our emotions or our needs… listen to them!
  • If you’re in a situation where someone in your life is consistently triggering you, don’t be afraid to bring them into a therapy session with you to parse out exactly what you need from them as a loved one. Remember, we live in diet-culture world, so give your loved ones some time to adjust to this new way of life!
  • Be aware of your own internalized fat stigma when exploring recovery.
  • You weren’t born with food rules!! These are LEARNED behaviors and “truths.”
  • Checking back in with your treatment team post-recovery is SO important! Remember, we live in a world that hasn’t recovered from its own eating disorder, so having a supportive community around you is essential for maintaining recovery.
  • On feminism: Feminism is for everyone, not just women! Ending sexism is good for everyone.
  • Ending weight stigma helps everyone!

Show Notes:

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My mom put me on my first diet.

Do you have a love/hate relationship with food? Are your food issues related to your fear of gaining weight? Have you been struggling for some time, going back and forth between recovery and eating disorder behaviors due to the fear around what food peace truly means? Does food insecurity impact your relationship with food? Listen now for some tips on how to overcome these challenges.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • Meret Boxler, host of the Life. Unrestricted podcast, shares her letter about her food peace journey and struggles!
  • None of this is your fault!!
  • Sometimes our family dynamics produce a situation in which the children have to become their own parents to survive. This can impact our relationship with food very deeply.
  • Ellyn Satter’s food hierarchy of needs versus the Maslow hierarchy of needs: our foundational needs must be met in order to build towards needs higher up the pyramid. If we’re struggling with our foundational needs, we won’t be motivated to reach for our more nuanced needs.
    • For example, food security is the foundation of the food hierarchy of needs. If someone wants to work towards wellness, food security must be established first!
    • Some examples of food insecurity: poverty, growing up with caregivers who were always on diets or policing food etc. These environments prevent a foundational sense of food security from forming.
  • Wellness is NOT the most important thing in our relationship with food… it’s food security. Permission around foods (especially fun foods!) can be part of the big picture of healing from a past of food insecurity.
  • Feeling our feelings is very important in this food peace process!!
  • If we work at it, our needs around permission and food security will eventually be met. Be patient! You are worth this work!!
  • Food peace is your birthright.
  • Weight stigma is at the core of a lot of our food peace struggles. It is OPPRESSIVE! We need to stop the discrimination based on weight, rather than push people to change their bodies.
  • We need to end weight-based bullying!!
  • The media tells us which body sizes are acceptable. Representation of ALL kinds of bodies is so important.
  • Weight-based stigma in the eating disorder community is a big problem! You can’t tell by a person’s appearance if they’re struggling with an eating disorder.
  • Weight is NOT indicative of health! All bodies of all sizes and abilities can strive for health-promoting behaviors, including body acceptance and intuitive eating.
  • Self-compassion is key!!

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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