How do I stop obsessing about food? {Ep 094 with Jessica Setnick}

Do you struggle with making peace with physical movement, or are you using it to compensate for eating behaviors? Are you struggling with how to get started, and feeling paralyzed? Listen now for some expert tips on these food peace struggles.

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Episode’s Key Points:

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  • You are NOT alone!!
  • Jessica Setnick joins us to offer her eating disorder recovery and food peace expertise.
  • If we were more open about our food peace struggles, we’d probably find that many people around us are ALSO struggling with diet culture and disordered eating… we need to promote sharing our experiences as a safe option to find support.
  • Sometimes being a smart, self-aware person puts us in a situation of paralysis by analysis! Reach out for support with the appropriate professionals, either in-person or virtually, as the first step to getting out of our own head.
  • Even if we think we know what to eat already, seeing a dietitian is KEY! They can help us break down our own unhelpful thought processes or behaviors.
  • Work on the perfectionism, and work with a dietitian to brainstorm solutions to your individual struggles or roadblocks.
  • What even is an eating disorder dietitian?? They’re often more in tune with the connection between food and anxiety or food and emotions. Find the expert who’s going to really help you with recovery!!
  • You might go through withdrawal if you struggle with exercise addition or compulsion, so seek out a psychiatrist if there’s a need for an evaluation for medication.
  • Being unable to change a pattern doesn’t mean you’re not trying!! It means that the pattern is so, so strong, and may actually be related to your brain chemistry. This is why getting help from a team of EXPERTS is so crucial, so that they can help you figure out what’s really going on.
  • New eyes can help you move forward!

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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I’m recovering yet fat so why do I have to eat so much? {Ep 92}


Does the journey to food peace just feel too long? Have you been struggling to the point that it feels like it’s time to give up? Does thinking about food just make you tired? Are you struggling to make sure you eat enough every day? Listen now for some insight into this part of the food peace journey.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • Food can be boring. Sometimes eating can be a chore, and eating decisions can be exhausting, especially in recovery.
  • Permission, self-care, and just “being” are things that the recovery journey forces us to get familiar with. But they can be challenging, and this boredom and exhaustion around food can be a sign that you are struggling with those parts of food peace.
  • Recovery is like an upward spiral… it can sometimes feel like you’re going backwards, but that just means you’re about to make a breakthrough.
  • Continue to work on grounding yourself in ALL aspects our your life, not just with food! Use a barometer check to check in with your body throughout the day. Do you feel tired, anxious, or unhappy?
  • Remember, eating disorders are NOT about the food! It’s an indicator to us that a need isn’t being met.
  • What is our body trying to tell us???
  • Our brains have neuroplasticity!! This means we can change our brains to alter our habits.
  • Remember self-compassion in this process! Eventually, your mind and body will reconnect on its own.
  • Sometimes the exhaustion is related to decision fatigue. Try to conserve your energy for the important, life altering questions!
  • How are our experiences with food replicating our experience in other areas of our lives?
  • Try CBT in conjunction with this embodiment practice!
  • Remember, you may not always have the answer… and that’s okay!!

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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I can’t stop obsessing about what I eat {Ep 89}


Are you cycling between restricting and bingeing? Have you left behind dieting, but are still struggling with the feeling of being out of control around food? Is your body image and fear of weight gain jeopardizing your food peace journey? Listen now for some solutions to these common struggles.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • What’s the nitty gritty behind our food and body anxieties??
  • We learn at a young age that our bodies are to be CONTROLLED rather than enjoyed! This directly impacts our body image and how we feel about food.
  • Our relationships with our parents can really influence how we feel about food and our body! The connections we make as children stick with us, and inform our relationships as we get older.
  • Familiar patterns (like dieting!) can feel super familiar and reassuring, even if they aren’t ultimately positive patterns for our mental health.
  • Cooking can be an important act of self-care and nourishment!! It can really help us to move past our food rules.
  • Sometimes, when we try to control food and our body, it’s because something else feels out of control in our lives.
  • How can we reconnect with our bodies and pleasure?
  • Dieting and eating disorder behaviors can be coping mechanisms that we use to protect ourselves and distract ourselves! When you’re ready, or when the coping mechanism isn’t serving you anymore, investigate the WHY.
  • Work with a therapist to figure this stuff out, including how to incorporate self-compassion into your life!
  • Recovery isn’t linear, and black and white thinking holds you back! Step away from all or nothing thinking to support yourself in your recovery.
  • Connect with your values! This will help you stay on the recovery path.

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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Thank you for listening to the Love, Food series.

Intuitive eating never works for me. {Ep 86 with Evelyn Tribole}


Have you tried to move away from dieting, but in doing so have started to feel out of control? Are you worried about “letting yourself go?” Do you feel like intuitive eating will just never work for you?¬†Listen now for some thoughts on how to move forward.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • Diets cause the chaos, and it’s not your fault that moving away from them is so hard!
  • Body positivity doesn’t need to be associated with “letting yourself go” or being overfull! This overfull feeling has to do with DIETING, not body positivity.
  • Evelyn Tribole joins to help us tackle these intuitive eating struggles!!
  • Dealing with overeating when you first start exploring intuitive eating is a common struggle, and it can definitely be worked through! There’s lots of solutions here.
  • The diet industry makes us feel like we’re one bite away from poor health.
  • Remember that the process of intuitive eating and making peace with food is one of discovery and curiosity… there is no way to do it right or wrong!
  • We must connect with the body and become the expert of what¬†own bodies need when we delve into intuitive eating. Clue into what you’re experiencing in your body, rather than in your mind.
  • You can’t make a mistake in intuitive eating! All bumps in the road are a part of the learning process. If you feel overfull, you haven’t done anything wrong! Just explore the experience and discover what is within it.
  • Trust the body, rather than pushing prescriptive rules and decisions. Our bodies¬†have been silenced, and intuitive eating gives them a voice!
  • Interceptive awareness: the ability to perceive the feelings that arise in the body, both physical and emotional (all emotional feelings have a physical response!). Tapping into these feelings can help you get your needs met.
  • How do we move from shame or guilt to curiosity? Pause, and figure out what belief system we believe we’ve violated. Write down the thoughts and rules that we believe we are breaking.
  • Belief systems take a while to break down!
  • Treat your body as an experiment! Allow intuitive eating to guide you to become an expert of your body again.
  • Surround yourself with resources that promote self-kindness!!
  • Intuitive eating research is strong. There is a body of evidence that shows intuitive eating is health promoting!
  • Intuitive eating is getting more popular in the media… but most main news sites that cover intuitive eating focus on permission to eat, and forget about the rest of the 10¬†principles. We have to make sure that when people learn about intuitive eating, they learn about what it truly is in its totality!
  • When we¬†take away the guilt and judgment around eating, we make room for satisfaction.
  • You are NOT alone!
  • The steps out of this tug-of-war will be challenging, but they will be worth it.

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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Thank you for listening to the Love, Food series.

I can’t control what I eat. {Ep 085}


Have you been struggling with a complicated relationship with food for many years? Do you feel anger with your experience, and resentment towards food? Listen now to hear some experiments to resolve this food peace issue.

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This episode is brought to you by my FREE roadmap: Your First 3 Steps Towards Food Peace with PCOS. You CAN make peace with food even with PCOS and I want to show you how. Join our Facebook group to get extra support!

Episode’s Key Points:

  • Recovering from an eating disorder is SO different than recovery from an addiction… we NEED food! So how do we figure out how to navigate something that we struggle with, but that we have to engage with on a daily basis?
  • When we struggle with an eating disorder, food becomes the central focus of the brain. When we pursue recovery, it’s no wonder that food is still on our minds! We have to retrain our brain, and rewire it so that over time, it stops obsessing over the food.
  • Lean into the resentment, anger, and exhaustion! These emotions are present for a reason. Ask yourself, who DESERVES¬†this resentment and anger? This resentment and anger should be directed at our cultural expectations for the human body and for womanhood.
  • Food is there to NOURISH us, not punish us.
  • Recovery from an eating disorder is HARD WORK, and it’s made harder by the fact that our culture still needs to recover from its own eating disorder. You keep getting mixed messages!
  • We HAVE to feel our feelings, and examine them to figure out what their messages are for us… otherwise they’ll keep resurfacing.
  • Even when things feel hard, remember that you are STILL moving forward.
  • Work with a therapist to help you muddle through this stage!
  • Some practical advice: keep some easy, low-prep, go-to foods on hand at all times! Use these foods when you need a break, but you still want to make sure you’re getting the nutrients you need.
  • Food’s important, but it’s not everything. It doesn’t have to always be the most pleasurable or nourishing experience… it can just be food!
  • Food might become boring. That’s normal! Try to schedule a meal or snack once a week that you eat with someone else to help support you through this stage.
  • Food is a connector!
  • Food is not supposed to be thought about all the time. Instead, it’s a part of our lives, and our relationships should be taking central focus.

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

Click here to leave me a review in iTunes and subscribe. This type of kindness helps the show continue!

Thank you for listening to the Love, Food series.