Love Food Podcast Episode 15: I am confused and shoulding all over myself

 

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Body acceptance and respect is all fine and good yet what if one gains weight due to medications? Does this trump non-diet approach research? Does this make the pursuit of weight loss health promoting? If so, how can one lose weight in a healthy way??

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Key Points:

  • Our family of origin teaches us how to relate to food and our body. If you grew up in a family with disordered eating and/or body hate, it teaches us to fear fat and to prevent it all costs. Even if it hurts.
  • The only thing we can tell about a person from his/her weight is our own weight bias (based on a quote from Marilyn Wann). Not health.
  • Those at higher weights may very well be eating in a health promoting way so if you get at higher doesn’t mean you must now worry about your weight. The worry very well could lead to more disease.
  • Should you diet if you’ve gained weight from a medication? No. What if you’ve gained 100 pounds or more…does that make a difference? It’s a moot point for me the weight gain amount does not matter. We have no diet that promotes effective and health promoting outcomes long-term for more than 3 to 5%. Julie demands better data before I can recommend a weight loss diet. Otherwise, Julie would be promoting something without sound scientific backing.
  • Twin studies suggest the more one diets, the more they weigh.
  • Friend: “I am going on a diet.” Julie: “Oh, are you trying to gain weight??” Friend: “Uhhh, no. Huh?”
  • All change brings melancholy so respecting your current higher size due to medication may warrant a time of grief.
  • If you don’t agree with this podcast episode, I welcome the conversation. Please send me the data.

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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Love Food Podcast Episode 14: How do I feed my kids without passing on my issues?

 

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Raising children and all its food mess can bring up some past, somewhat resolved, bad body thoughts. Throw in everyone’s opinion on the best way to feed your children, and you may feel like you are in an eating disorder relapse tailspin. How can you provide variety and teach healthy eating without sparking that eating disorder?? Can you prevent passing it on to your children??

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Key Points:

  • We don’t cry over spilled milk in our house yet it can get under my skin.
  • When knee deep in the meal time chaos take a deep breath, step back, and know many parents are feeling this same struggle feeding their children. #TheStruggleIsReal
  • Julie’s daughter decided to go rouge with her sour cream and just about freaked Julie out.
  • With a few boundaries, our children will get the nutrients they need without having to be constantly policed.
  • Katie Holder RD rock and rolls in the meal time chaos. She provides insight to get us through.
  • Trust your instincts when something in feeding feels off.
  • Peace at meal time happens when our kids feel safe and competent with the food choices yet meal time may still feel bonkers.
  • Family style dining can promote a healthy relationship with food. Include a couple of starches, fruit, vegetable, a protein, and couple sources of fat. Plop them on the table. Kids decide how much if any they will eat of these. No pressure to eat certain foods. No bribes. No foods before others.
  • Expect food jags due to preference and appetite. At two years of age, pickiness peaks and willingness to try things changes.
  • Katie’s son didn’t eat a vegetable for a whole year…and no one took her nutrition license away 😉
  • Serve dessert at dinner not afterwards sometimes. Teaches all foods are normal and enjoyable.
  • Never force a child to eat something. Child needs to be able to have permission to not eat and learn how to say it politely.
  • Meal time boundaries help everyone. Including giving caregivers a chance to take a break. At some time we need to be able to say, “THE KITCHEN IS CLOSED!” Healthy boundaries can prevent passing on that eating disorder.
  • All those caregivers out there: you are doing a great job!

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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Thank you for listening to the Love, Food series. Give me feedback via Twitter @EatingPermitRD.

Love Food Podcast Episode 12: Body Positive Gal in a Body Anxious World

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What if you’ve worked for years to heal your relationship with food and your body yet some people in your life are just not there themselves? And may never be? To stay in recovery, do you have to defend abstaining from diets? Do you need to censure all bad body talk? Julie calls dietitian and eating disorder specialist Pam Kelle to discuss ways to navigate this complicated and common experience.

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Key Points:

  • Growing up, Julie loved alternative and punk rock. (Secretly still does!)
  • Those affected by eating disorders are the canaries in the coal mine: they let us know when the world has become too toxic with diets and self hate.
  • Working toward and maintaining eating disorder recovery can be exhausting because of the impulse to defend non diet ways of experiencing food.
  • Pam Kelle RD, CEDRD teaches us to recognize the struggle with toxic diet and body hate talk and lean into it. She says observe with compassion rather than putting your dukes up.
  • While leaning in, meditate on the gratitude that you’re not currently in the throes of the diet trap like family or friends.
  • Remember how we connect with family and friends (safety, security, love, friendship, etc) and let it well up inside us. Next time we see those who diet, connect with this meditation rather than worry or be defensive.
  • Meditate, focus on the positive connections, and react with compassion rather than defensiveness. When we have the urge to be defensive, its a mirror to what we want to be away from in our own life.
  • Stay grounded in your own journey.
  • We all have a right to stand up and speak our truth yet try and predict the outcomes. If you want to speak up about diet conversations, decide what you would like to happen and consider if worth it.
  • Diet talk may be the gum on the bottom of your shoe: always there and sticky and triggering.
  • No one can rock your world if you don’t want them to!

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

Click here to leave me a review in iTunes and subscribe. This type of kindness helps the show continue!

Thank you for listening to the Love, Food series. Give me feedback via Twitter @EatingPermitRD.