The Love Food Podcast Episode 52 with Rebecca Scritchfield

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Do you struggle with perfectionism? Have you tried to ditch the diet, but still find yourself obsessing over eating “right?” Do you have a hard time letting go of the weight loss goal, even if you are far into your intuitive eating journey? Does food feel like an all or nothing experience for you, either eating for pleasure or restricting for weight loss? Listen now for some advice on how to work through these issues.

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Key Points:

  • It’s National Dieting Month! Be sure to listen in on all the bonus episodes this month to help you avoid the excessive diet talk and fat-shaming gym membership chit chat!
  • Sometimes we can go into certain food restrictions, such as vegetarianism and veganism, with the best of intentions, but they can quickly spiral out of control and feel obsessive.
  • Weight loss is seductive!
  • How do we relate to food in a neutral, balanced way, rather than one that feels like an all-or-nothing, binge restrict cycle?
  • Perfectionism can stand in the way of feeling safe with food and trusting your body.
  • Rebecca Scritchfield joins for some more insight on this topic, and a conversation on body kindness!
  • Diet culture is toxic!! We all need some love and compassion when trying to tackle it.
  • If we’re trying to put ourselves first, embrace self-care, and embody self-acceptance but we have not yet fully accepted our bodies just as they are, this can lead to a common but difficult tug of war: to diet, or to drop the diet and plunge headfirst into body acceptance.
  • “Fears and anxieties can lead to desperate decisions and actions.” – Rebecca
  • How do we strive for a healthier, happier life in a holistic sense, rather than one that focuses on our size or shape?
  • Feeling stuck between dieting and self-acceptance is draining… how do we break out of that? Rebecca weighs in!
    • Acceptance even in the face of anxiety and discomfort.
    • Space to reflect and engage in compassionate and rational thinking.
  • “Perfectionism means unachievable!” – Rebecca
    • We must be able to question why we are holding ourselves accountable to something that we know no one else can achieve.
    • Practice setting up boundaries around perfectionism and asserting that it does not work for you!
    • STOP allowing it to control your choices.
  • Can we accept ourselves and love ourselves, but still hold weight loss as a goal?
    • If we sit with that desire, but choose not to pursue specific, unhelpful weight loss goals, and instead just bring those feelings along for the ride, eventually that desire will work itself out in favor of self-care and self-love.
    • Take the action that you would take if you were ALREADY the person you “want” to be, and take steps to enjoy life!
    • Eventually, the weight loss goal becomes less important just by doing the things that help you to love yourself more.
  • Diet culture is everywhere, and NOT engaging in diet culture is a huge job!
  • Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
  • Rebecca’s new book, Body Kindness!!
    • Guidance and flexible tips to engage in self-care in all aspects of your life.
    • Discussing the benefit of both good AND bad emotions!!
    • How to we set up sustainable, good goals?
    • The benefits of connection, compassion, and kindness… how do we engage in a meaningful life NOW?
    • A special discount for Love Food listeners available for a limited time: order Body Kindness and get 25% off with the code KIND at this link https://www.workman.com/products/body-kindness

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

Click here to leave me a review in iTunes and subscribe. This type of kindness helps the show continue!

Thank you for listening to the Love, Food series. Give me feedback via Twitter @EatingPermitRD.

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The Love Food Podcast Episode 44 with Fiona Sutherland

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Do you have a hard time eating without worrying about “good” and “bad” food labels? Do you feel like food is your enemy? Do you feel overwhelmed by all the nutrition info out there? Join Julie and fellow dietitian Fiona Southerland to start unpacking this issue!

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Key Points:

  • Our bodies have lots of different methods, including our brains and our intuition, to help them figure out what they needs in terms of food in order to feel satisfied and full.
  • Healthy eating includes PLEASURE!
  • Fiona Southerland joins to help answer this week’s letter!
  • Self-compassion and kindness is super important when we confront our beliefs related to food rules.
  • We are not alone… so many of us feel this way.
  • It’s impossible to follow every single food rule!
  • The more we try to follow rules and live in our heads (intellectualizing!), the less we listen to our body and intuition (innate wisdom!).
  • There are so many crazy things going on in the world… why are we focused on whether or not something has gluten in it?!
  • Even the professionals don’t know everything about nutrition… it’s confusing!
  • When we try to control things that weren’t supposed to be controlled (like our food intake) we go haywire.
  • Our culture is confusing health with our appearance (like our body shape).
  • Our expectations about the female body inform our opinions of health.
  • Fiona’s “Build up and let go model:” build up our skills of inner awareness, which will allow us to let go of rigidity.
  • We need skills related to our intuition in order to drop the food rules and stick to it!
  • How do we find a stable place outside of food when we feel out of control with our body?
  • The wise parts of us are not perfect!
  • Intuitive eating can become another set of diet rules… don’t let it!
  • The foundation of intuitive eating is unconditional permission to eat.
  • We must help people build long-term resilience against the cultural crap! Self-care and personal connection are super helpful for our wellbeing, and we have to return to our well of wisdom and call upon a stable place of self-compassion to take care or ourselves and move past cultural expectations.
  • Intuitive eating is s different way of BEING with food. It’s peace. But it’s scary, and that’s okay!
  • Perfectionism and the all-or-nothing approach can get in the way of healing around food.
  • Fiona says, “Reassurance without assurance”… we will support you through the confusion!
  • HEALING YOUR RELATIONSHIP TO FOOD IS MESSY!! (Cultivate the mess!)
  • Although knowledge is important, it can take us away from living. It’s time to slow down and hone in on our intuition.

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

Click here to leave me a review in iTunes and subscribe. This type of kindness helps the show continue!

Thank you for listening to the Love, Food series. Give me feedback via Twitter @EatingPermitRD.

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The Love Food Podcast episode 39

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Are you at diet rock bottom and longing for food peace yet feel just as stuck in things like mindful eating and intuitive eating? Do you experience more shoulds and rigid rules within tools meant to release your complicated relationship with food? Can you escape rule prison? Yup. You can. Listen now for insight.

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Key Points:

  • Editor’s note: This episode 39 needed to be released a week behind episode 40 because it wasn’t quite ready. I’m trying to be ok with the break in numbering and hope you can be too.
  • Mindful eating can be twisted to be harmful rather than health promoting and compassionate.
  • Mindfulness’s foundation: a compassionate nonjudgemental presence. Being in the moment and noticing brain messages, feelings, etc.
  • Shoulding leads to dieting.
  • Watch out for the hybrid: mindful dieting.
  • Mindfulness connected to dieting, pursuit of weight loss, or “right” way then twisting mindfulness to make it no longer mindful.
  • How to change?
    • Compassionate nonjudgemental curiosity. Center on this concept. Be aware of judgements and notice them too without judging. Normal and natural especially living in a fat body.
    • Practice pausing. Decide what you’d really like it to be as a grown up and in charge of yourself.
    • Healthy eating includes pleasure. Honor this pleasure. Learn to be ok with it.
  • “When you take the joy out of eating, nutrition suffers.” Ellyn Satter RD LCSW
  • Jinx experiences = personalization

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

Click here to leave me a review in iTunes and subscribe. This type of kindness helps the show continue!

Thank you for listening to the Love, Food series. Give me feedback via Twitter @EatingPermitRD.

The Love Food Podcast August Bonus Episode

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What’s the foundation for food peace?? Listen now for Julie’s thoughts. She hopes it illuminates your path to freedom.

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Key Points:

  • Compassionate curiosity is where it’s at.
  • Stop shoulding on yourself.
  • Notice without judgement.
  • Simple not easy.
  • Food anthropologist or golf voice.
  • Take out the shame or should and it will clear out your path.
  • Shame NEVER promotes health just makes people feel shitty about themselves.
  • Moving away from the shoulds you will notice that your body has certain needs, within a rhythm, and can be trusted. Your body has been on your side the whole time.
  • As moving away from the shoulds expect normal rebellion.

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

Click here to leave me a review in iTunes and subscribe. This type of kindness helps the show continue!

Thank you for listening to the Love, Food series. Give me feedback via Twitter @EatingPermitRD.

The Worn Out Mom Holiday Survival Guide

Mom Holiday SurvivalHoliday pressures lead many of us to rely on mile long to-do lists, with attendant feelings of inferiority rather than attending to self-care. Don’t you just love the warm fuzzy holiday feelings of peace and joy?!? (Sarcasm intended.)

Many moms feel the month of December is all about providing experiences for everyone else, and typical self-care strategies just don’t fit in. This month, many people put themselves on the bottom of the priority list. While this may help your family attend more holiday parties or have more decorations around the house, ignoring self-care has its consequences. For example, attending your regular weekly yoga class may be tough to squeeze in, yet doing so will help you feel less stressed, sleep better, and be more present this holiday. Remember, self-care is not selfish.

In order to promote health and mindfulness, consider these three sanity saving pointers:

Have One Hot Meal Sitting Down Per Day

I remember that, when my children were infants, I rarely sat down. As the primary caregiver, I was constantly attending to their needs. I have memories of changing diapers, feeding them, keeping them from pinching the dog, keeping them out of the cat litter, and otherwise protecting this fragile new human. I was sleep deprived, and constantly ate on the run–with one hand. If I couldn’t eat something with one hand, I didn’t eat it. And I wondered why I felt like a chaotic mess!

I read a recommendation from Geneen Roth that changed a big portion of my self-care. She wrote that we all need to sit down and eat one hot meal on a real plate each day. The food choice wasn’t important; rather, it was the time spent sitting and focusing on the meal that was important. This recommendation spoke to me, because I connected with this being an opportunity to nurture and nourish my mind, body and spirit. And, oh boy, I needed that!

Even during chaotic holiday schedules, be sure to give yourself at least one eating opportunity each day to eat mindfully, focusing on just that. You’ll find that it calms you and reenergizes you– so you can continue to keep your little human from sticking metal into electrical outlets or eating the dog food.

Stay Off Pinterest and Other Ways to Avoid Comparison

“Comparison is the thief of joy.” I think this quote by Theodore Roosevelt needs to be on the Pinterest disclaimer page. Holiday traditions and activities involve limitless options for creativity. This is cool–for those who love hodge podging or baking decadent desserts–yet it can lead the rest of us down the dark dreary place of comparison and perfectionism.

Instead of looking into what everyone else is doing, consider the holiday traditions that give you the most joyful feelings. What do you remember as a kid that you want to pass on? Give yourself permission to pick the ones, if any, that you have the mental bandwidth for this holiday season. Resist the urge to search online for what you should be doing. Focus on what you want to do, and practice being okay with limiting the choices. To do this, you may want to avoid some social media, like Pinterest or Facebook, until the urge to compare goes away.

By the way, I love this recommendation so much that I’m deleting the Pinterest app from my phone as I type this! Wheee, that felt good!

Move Your Body in a Way that Feels Good

Human bodies are meant to move, and I don’t mean on treadmills in the “no pain no gain” fashion. Our bodies are designed for movement to promote health and well-being.  Our body also has ways of letting us know that the movement we’ve chosen is one worth repeating by the pleasure it gives us.  By staying aware of your body’s response, you’ll know what your body needs and wants. You’ll know that you’re moving in the right direction (nice pun, right?!?) when the movement feels good.

As you experience the holiday, notice what your body is craving. Do you want to dance to your favorite holiday songs? Take a nighttime stroll to admire the lights? Do you crave stillness? Attend to your body’s desire to move or not, and you’ll notice more connection to the present–and less chaos with what life throws your way.

Happy holidays friends!