Can I raise an intuitive eater if I’ve never been one? {with Leslie Schilling}


Are you worried about your ability to raise a normal eater, when maybe you’ve never been one yourself? Do you worry about raising children in larger bodies because you fear they will live a life filled with eating issues and judgment? Listen now for some suggestions for navigating this difficult part of the food peace journey.

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This episode is brought to you by my PCOS summer series: Empowering Your PCOS Journey. You CAN make peace with food even with PCOS and I want to show you how. This series and our Facebook group will be with you every step of the way.

Episode’s Key Points:

  • Being in a larger body in this world is HARD. From clothing choices to fitting in chairs, fat bodies face oppression EVERY day.
  • It IS possible to prepare children for this fatphobic world by telling them that you love them at ANY size.
  • Leslie Schilling joins to talk solutions!
  • Our culture is one of diet culture, and so it’s not uncommon to have these fears when thinking about having children.
  • Understanding our own development around food is a HUGE step in learning how to raise children with a healthy relationship with food.
  • Sometimes we have to recognize that the way we were raised was super disordered!
  • Use your nutrition intuition.
  • Be ASSERTIVE about the way you raise your children.
  • Remember that you are your child’s protector! It’s a parent’s responsibility to teach body peace, rather than body hate, and to stand up against other adults who perpetuate body shame.
  • Honesty builds bridges.
  • It’s not our job to change other people’s minds, but it IS our job to be assertive about our own safe spaces.
  • Values upheld by the family help a child to be self-protective.
  • Make sure your kid knows that THEY are in charge of their own body.
  • Kids have to be able to FAIL. As long as they have a safe home to come back to, we can’t protect them from all of diet culture all of the time
  • Baby-led weaning: use family food to wean kids off of the bottle.
  • We are born as experts of our own body!

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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I want to hide my bad habits from my kids {with Lindsay Stenovec}

Do you deal with binge eating? Did you experience bullying, specifically within your own family, that relates to your body shape or size? Have you experienced sexual abuse, and feel that it has impacted your relationship with food and your body? Are you trying to set a healthy example for your own children after having a difficult relationship with food in your past? Listen now for some expert advice on how to cope with these body trust struggles.

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Check out this summer’s special blog post series: Empowering Your PCOS Journey. It aims to help you understand PCOS, improve your relationship with food, and advocate for better care. You will be hearing from nutrition grad student Kimberly Singh and her experiences with PCOS as well as evidenced based info to help arm yourself with the most up-to-date research. Find it here now: JulieDillonRD.com/PCOSseries

Episode’s Key Points:

  • Sometimes our family environments can be just as toxic as this culture that we live in… remember, we ALL live in diet culture!! But that doesn’t make our family’s actions okay.
  • Abuse, physical or mental, can have a profound impact on our relationship with food and our body.
  • Lindsay Stenovec of The Nurtured Mama joins to talk about the complex interactions of motherhood and our relationship with food!
  • Processing this kind of trauma is essential… find a therapist to work through these difficult emotions and to help you cope with your past!
  • Sometimes we use food to cope with our emotions… this is totally understandable, but we can take steps to help heal this part of our relationship with food if we find it interfering with us living our lives.
  • We are all doing the very best that we can under our own circumstances! This doesn’t make us a failure or a fraud.
  • How do we feed others when we’ve had such a fraught relationship with food and body ourselves?
  • As parents, we do our best to shield our children from pain, especially from pain that we have experienced ourselves. Many mamas are trying to shield their children from the pain that they themselves experienced in relation to food and body… but sometimes this backfires when parents do so by trying to get their children to lose weight or to eat in a “perfect” way.
  • Feeling acceptable is SO important to finding body peace and body trust! Instead of repeating the same cycle of trying to control your own child’s food intake or body shape, focus on the unconditional acceptance you have for your child and help them to foster this body acceptance in themselves, no matter the outside influences.
  • We should ALWAYS feel safe at home, even if we live in diet-culture world!
  • We’re all just doing the best that we can!!
  • What does it mean to eat in a “healthy” way? How do we make peace with food and our bodies?
  • Ellyn Satter’s definition of normal eating is a helpful resource!!
  • Healthy eating is more about being connected to life, not about what we put in our bodies.
  • Our relationship with food and our bodies is about very complicated, difficult, and personal truths. It has to do with the food, but it also doesn’t! Our past has a HUGE impact on all of this, and it’s SO important to find support around figuring all of this stuff out. Find a trauma, Health at Every Size, and eating-disorder-trained therapist or dietitian to help you along this journey!!
  • Raising children brings up the difficult parts in ourselves that still need more work.
  • Going to therapy is a BRAVE choice! It is hard, but it gives us the tools to move forward in our lives and find healing.
  • Stress, discomfort, and feeling like a fraud are messages from our body! These emotions mean there is something that needs to be addressed within.
  • Secretive eating, shame, and hiding of food is an understandable reaction to growing up in an environment that body and food shamed you! The important question is not, “How do I stop,” but, “What do these actions tell me about my needs?”
  • Sometimes we don’t learn sustainable coping skills as a child… therapy can help us bolster our toolbox of coping mechanisms as adults!
  • Normal eating is FLEXIBLE!!! Normal eating is trusting our body to make up for our “mistakes” in our eating, and being compassionate about our choices.
  • In the end, it is JUST food.
  • When you trust your body to take care of yourself, it’ll do the best that it can.

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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Everyone thinks I’m a healthy eater but I’m a fraud.

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Do you ever make your food choices based on what other people might think? Have you ever eaten “for show,” or eaten in ways that aren’t sustainable because of your food reputation? Listen now for some things to try for your own path to food peace and to break out of this pattern.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • Sometimes the way we eat, interact with food, and move our body can become our IDENTITY and sense of SELF-WORTH! But we CAN’T get a healthy sense of sense from our food choices.
  • Becoming a dietitian takes a LOT of work, including a ton of science education. Often, people who go into nutrition are intelligent and want to help people! These characteristics are so much more interesting and make up a much bigger part of our identity than our food choices!!
  • In order to heal, it’s time to let go of food as a part of our identity.
  • It’s VERY likely that your friends and family don’t actually think of you in the context of your food, and that this is an identity you’ve created and maintained all on your own!
  • Think about how you actually want people to identify you! Write it down, and keep it on hand for whenever you experience normal eating and feel like your identity is being compromised.
  • Bingeing is often a by-product of rigidity, restriction, or other forms of strict eating.
  • Recovery requires a team approach and a ton of support… find a dietitian near you who specializes in eating disorders and seek out therapy!
  • What is “normal” eating?? Normal eating is balanced, non-restrictive, and nourishing.
  • Our biology, and the drive to eat when we’re restricting, is here to save us!!
  • Symbolic hunger vs. physiological hunger: Sometimes when we follow rigid eating plans, our bodies start screaming for our attention! Depression and anxiety can surface because our physical needs aren’t being met.
  • There’s is science out there supporting why diets and restrictive eating don’t work! Seek it out.

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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The Love Food Podcast Episode 38 with Tracy Brown

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Have you had an emotional connection to food that has helped you cope with crappy life events yet now you want to experience food in the way intended? Do you long to be a normal eater? Listen now for insight to steady and stable.

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Key Points:

  • Who is a normal eater? Especially these days, our culture’s typical normal eating is disordered, rigid, and pathological. There is a way through!
  • It is normal to emotionally eat sometimes. Unless you are a robot.
  • Sometimes it hurts more than helps and it’s a great first step when recognize this.
  • Want normal eating = want peacefulness
  • Tracy Brown RD uses her experiences on farm to the rewiring brain process:
    • Dad never mowed shoulder-high pasture around pond.
    • A faint path would go down when drove over it and it would be tough to go over.
    • Becomes path of least resistance over time and easier.
    • Food behaviors can become path of least resistance.
    • What if made new path?? Will feel foreign or illegal at first yet over time you will get the hang of it.
    • Be sure to pause to help you recognize what’s going on.
  • Create a pause to create something new. This is the first step!
  • Progress comes from permission and the pause.
  • I feel fat may = I feel uncomfortable.
  • Making new pathways is messy and honor the old path’s functionality.
  • Get to the story of what makes it uncomfortable. What else could you be hungry for?
  • Doing this work will make your eating normal in your definition yet abnormal within our current eating culture.

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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Thank you for listening to the Love, Food series. Give me feedback via Twitter @EatingPermitRD.

The Love Food Podcast Episode 35

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Do you binge every time you go on vacation?? Do you find yourself avoiding travel because of the shame connected to vacation binge eating? Listen now for ways to getaway without hating yourself.

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Key Points:

  • Thank you for your support and helping us reach 100,000 downloads! WooHooooo!
  • Carrots and fish….bleck.
  • Does every vacation include binge eating? You have two options to end the behavior:
    • Either give up vacations
    • work on permission
  • Pendulum with and without permission
    • rebellion
    • dieting
    • shame
    • shoulds
    • bingeing
    • dieting
  • Start permission with one food at a time.
  • Work with a team.
  • Normal eating vs normal disordered eating
  • Eating when hungry, stopping when full is simple yet not easy.

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

Click here to leave me a review in iTunes and subscribe. This type of kindness helps the show continue!

Thank you for listening to the Love, Food series. Give me feedback via Twitter @EatingPermitRD.