How do I get off the diet ⇢ binge cycle? {guest Judith Matz}

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Are you stuck at diet rock bottom? Do you feel shame about your food behaviors and your body? Are you struggling with the diet/binge cycle, looking for support on this food and body peace journey, and trying to break free from the diet mentality? Listen now for some solutions to these challenges.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • The common experience with food and body struggles is SHAME. That shame can prevent people from getting the help they need!
  • Diet rock bottom: the realization that diets just aren’t going to work anymore.
  • Judith Matz joins to give us a therapist’s perspective!
  • The diet story is always the same, but everyone has their own unique journey. You are not alone!!
  • One comment can lead to a lifelong feeling of shame about the body.
  • People are often stuck in the diet/binge cycle for so long!!
  • By sharing our stories and experiences, we can break out of the shame.
  • Before we start bringing in and stocking up on our forbidden foods, we have to connect with our hunger and fullness cues and rebuild those muscles.
  • When we say we can’t have a food, we are more prone to eating it all!! On the flip side, when we make forbidden foods “normal” and give ourselves permission, they become less special. Those forbidden foods become just like any other!
  • Sometimes we need some help on this journey, whether that’s a group, a therapist, or a dietitian trained in intuitive eating.
  • Food peace is so hard because we live in a world that moralizes food, adheres to the thin ideal, and equates size to health. This work can feel impossible if you don’t have a great support system behind you!
  • Understanding weight stigma is a huge part of this process!! We internalize beliefs about weight and worthiness… letting go of these beliefs about the body can be the hardest part of this process.
  • Weight discrimination hurts everyone, and affects all of us negatively!! It’s a social justice issue that we all have to work hard to change in our culture so that we can find body peace.
  • We pass messages down about food and body to our kids all the time that lead them into the diet/binge cycle, but there are ways to stop this pattern!

Show Notes:

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The Love Food Podcast Episode 46 with Ellen Shuman

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Are you someone who identifies with the emotional eating experience? Have you tried everything to work through emotional eating and bingeing, but still lean on food when things feel intolerable? Do the tools that everyone suggests to you to overcome these problems always seem to fall short? Listen now to get a new perspective and begin to find some relief from emotional eating.

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Key Points:

  • Sometimes we get convinced that nothing will work as good as food in allowing us to cope with our emotional issues.
  • How do we incorporate tools that just don’t work with our lifestyle?
  • Eating for emotional comfort just doesn’t make us happy in the long run!
  • Ellen Shuman, a therapist who does work specifically with people who struggle with emotional eating, joins us to help answer today’s letter! She tells us about her journey to becoming involved in the eating disorder and emotional eating worlds.
  • “The Oprah Effect”
  • Ellen’s “Emotional Handrails:” something to attach our mind to in order to tolerate the emotions long enough to figure out what is driving us to emotional eating.
  • It’s not about food behavior, it’s about being able to internally emotionally regulate!
  • “I’ve learned how to neutralize the things I’m saying to myself that really are distortions, and not really the truth.” – Ellen
  • The whole point of eating emotionally is to be mindLESS, which is why mindFULL eating is such a hard goal for people who deal with emotional eating.
  • “First we learn how to tolerate our thoughts and feelings and to feel more empowered to manage those so [that] we’re not so scared they’re gonna overwhelm us.” – Ellen
  • There are so many tools out there that work better!! It’s about intervening BEFORE the food thought hits.
  • Conscious positive behavior replaces conscious negative behavior.
  • Ellen’s “To Hell With it Switch:” that moment in which we abandon our promises to “do better” and instead engage in emotional eating to numb out.
  • What’s the brain chemistry going on here?? What are the patterns of thinking that trigger our emotional eating?
  • Top brain (pre-frontal cortex) vs. bottom brain (primitive brain).
  • Use self-compassion and self-care to quiet your negative thoughts (middle-brain self-critical statements) that lead to emotional overeating!
  • “I am not my thoughts! Just ’cause I have a food thought doesn’t mean I have to act on it.” – Ellen
  • “Don’t believe everything you think.” – Dr. Wayne W Dyer
  • Ellen chats about her program, A Weigh Out which focuses on an end to emotional eating and weight obsession, her free phone seminar session, and the Weigh Out free 3-week membership.
  • If we work on the underlying issues and learn new tools to support our emotional management, then the food issues begin to resolve themselves.
  • Happiness and freedom from food obsession comes from being who we truly are, and working on our emotional coping tools.
  • You are WORTH putting in the effort and figuring this out. Stop blaming yourself… you haven’t found the tools yet that work for you!
  • RECOVERY IS POSSIBLE!!

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

Click here to leave me a review in iTunes and subscribe. This type of kindness helps the show continue!

Thank you for listening to the Love, Food series. Give me feedback via Twitter @EatingPermitRD.

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