(125) I feel guilty when I eat (with Amanda Martinez Beck)

Do you ever feel guilt for eating certain foods? Do you fear judgement about what other people will think about your body or food choices? Do you ever catch yourself labeling food “good” or bad?” Are you finding it difficult to feel at home in your aging body? Listen along to this week’s episode as Amanda Martinez Beck helps provide meaningful reflection.

Episode’s Key Points:

  • Special guest: Amanda Martinez Beck, co-host of the Fat and Faithful podcast
  • Typically, we feel shame when we feel as though we have failed at meeting some type of expectations.
  • When processing body shame, it is often helpful to turn the conversation to, “What is the purpose of my body?” and being able to shift our understanding of its purpose from being a means to control life’s uncertainties to being a bridge of connection to other people.
  • Quote to live by: “All bodies are good bodies”–because all types of bodies can form connections with others.
  • Our aging bodies tell our stories and reflect ours and our ancestors’ journeys.

Show Notes:

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(124) My relationship with food is dark (with Corrie Van Horne and Melissa Preston).

Have you been trying to recover from your eating disorder yet constantly slipping back in? Been in and out of treatment? We hope you know you are not alone. Check out this week’s featured Dear Food letter and listen to the wise and compassionate advice from Corrie Van Horne and Melissa Preston.

Episode’s Key Points:

  • Special guests: Corrie Van Horne and Melissa Preston, both Licensed Professional Counselors (Corrie is a candidate) and Registered Dietitians, co-founders of Omni Counseling and Nutrition.
  • Many with eating disorders find themselves going in and out of various levels of treatment throughout their recovery journey.
  • Transitioning out of a higher level of care where there is fairly constant support can be challenging in many ways, particularly when it comes to “normalizing” one’s relationship with food.
  • Oftentimes, our relationship with food and how we perceive it, mirrors other relationships and forms of oppression in our life.
  • Autonomy and self-compassion are both powerful tools in healing both our relationship with individuals and food.
  • Good self-reminder: Food is essential to life. It is okay (and necessary) to want to and need to eat.

Show Notes:

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My past trauma keeps me from healing my relationship with food (Ep 110 with Julie Church and Kara Bazzi)

Are you struggling to accept your body size, even though you’ve made peace with food? Is past trauma still affecting our ability to find true and lasting recovery? Julie Church and Kara Bazzi join me to break down this part of the Food Peace™ journey.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • Working with a dietitian and therapist TEAM is so important for full recovery! Julie Church, RD, and Kara Bazzi, therapist, from Opal: Food + Body Wisdom Center join us to talk about this week’s letter.
  • Our eating behaviors are coping mechanisms, and sometimes we have to engage in some disordered behaviors to protect ourselves.
  • Shifting our relationship with our body is SO hard, especially when body hatred has plagued us for so long.
  • Seeking healing means there’s HOPE to find further growth and peace!
  • Our world is so, SO fatphobic, and it wrongly connects our weight to our health and our self-worth. Part of the work is disconnecting weight from these other factors.
  • Making peace with food and acting in self-care through nourishing ourselves does NOT mean you will lose weight, and it does NOT mean you’ll be in a smaller body! Food peace doesn’t equate to thinness.
  • Support yourself through this weight bias we experience by finding community. Advocate for yourself, and demand respect for your body! You deserve safe relationships.
  • Interrogate what’s behind the body hatred! Trauma, weight bias… these things can contribute to us not feeling safe in our bodies and disrupt our body image. Part of the process is striving for a more relational relationship with our bodies. Investigate some somatic work, and dig deep.

Show Notes:

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If diets work, why do you go on one every year?

Before you pick out another New Year’s resolution diet, I beg you to reconsider.

If diets work, why do you end up on one every year?

Diets come from a 60 billion dollar a year industry.

Billion.

These rich folks tell us we can’t trust ourselves around food, and we need them.

Their lists, supplements, gimmicks, books, potions, rules, lies.

We have trusted the diet industry with our lives, but are we actually healthier?

Instead of bringing us closer to health, chronic diseases are increasing. So are eating disorders, the most life threatening of all mental illnesses.

Diets promise weight loss yet I challenge you to find one weight loss study with a low drop out rate showing weight maintenance for more than two years. This research stops by one year because after that weight starts to be regained.

Instead of the weight loss industry, we need to rename it the weight cycling industry.

My frustration: we give this industry our hard-earned money and it doesn’t even work.

I am calling out the diet industry as money hungry frauds. Instead of bringing us health, peace, and weight loss they are robbing us of joy.

There is an alternative way to eat and promote health.

I challenge you to live one year without dieting.

Instead of categorizing foods into eat this not that, resolve to live your life. What will one year without dieting look like?

Reconnect with Your Eating Wisdom

Life without rigid food lists may bring to mind bingeing, food chaos, or unhealthy living. At least that is what diet
companies sell us to believe.

Instead of a list of safe foods, let your body decide how much to eat and what to choose from. You may have seen a baby cry when hungry and show contentment when satisfied. This system is well-known and trusted.

You were the same at birth and designed to let hunger, satiety, and fullness direct you toward healthy eating. What changed?

You were told to diet and this distracts and leads to distrusting signals. The more you’ve dieted, the farther you may be from this internal regulation system.

I want to help you reconnect to your innate wisdom. Attuned eating, also called Intuitive Eating by Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resch, has been shown to support and improve health while healing one’s relationship with food. You can find more confidence building discussions on attuned eating within future blog posts and among those using #FoodPeace on Instagram.

Reconnect with Exercise

While healing your relationship with food, be mindful of how exercise complicates things.

Do you have to go to the gym after eating too much?

Do you only eat fun food after working out?

Although common, these are eating disorder behaviors. When we view exercise as purely calories in, calories out we are missing the point. The human body is designed to move and using exercise as a penance makes it a short-lived experience.

I encourage you to find movement your body enjoys. This can become life long.

A perk: joyful balanced movement further enhances your body’s eating wisdom.

Reconnect with You

Dieting places food in the forefront of our perception and dictates whom we eat with and where we socialize. It keeps us out of the present.

Food does not deserve this power.

It is time to reclaim the driving position in your own life. Food Peace™ will help you reclaim your power.

Yes, this will be tough and I believe you can do it!

If you desire this reconnection to food, movement, and your body please join me. I will be podcasting, blogging, chatting, and posting using #FoodPeace throughout 2018. If you need more support, consider working with a registered dietitian nutritionist trained in eating disorders and Health at Every Size approaches.

Together, you can find the space to heal.

And reconnect with joy.

I have a complicated relationship with exercise. {Ep 97 with Jessi Haggerty}

Are you struggling with your relationship with exercise while pursuing food peace? Do you attach your self-worth to how much physical activity your body is capable of doing? Listen now for some tips on how to tackle this challenge in the food and body peace journey.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • Jessi Haggerty joins us to tackle this listener’s letter!
  • Fat acceptance and feminism can be KEY to finding recovery… and it can help us to keep going along the recovery path if we start to feel stuck!!
  • It’s important to inspect our beliefs about ability, and see how our relationship with exercise is influenced by ableism. Social justice can help us break free from other ways that diet culture holds us back!
  • It’s important to think about the INTENTIONS behind our physical activity… if the intention is about body manipulation, weight suppression, or to “prove” something, then it’s probably time to take a step back and rethink that choice.
  • Comparisons steal our joy!
  • Remember, compassion is key.

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

Click here to leave me a review in iTunes and subscribe. This type of kindness helps the show continue!

Thank you for listening to the Love, Food series.