My chronic illness keeps me from making peace with food. {Ep 88 with Elyse Resch}


Are you trying to find food peace, while also struggling with a chronic illness that requires food restriction of some kind? Do you have fear around certain foods making you sick? Have you struggled with the deprivation and binge cycle? Listen now for some strategies to tackle these food peace challenges.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • Elyse Resch joins to talk about intuitive eating!
  • We all are the experts of our own bodies.
  • Feelings of betrayal from food and your body can make finding body trust and connecting with your internal wisdom that much harder.
  • Have self-compassion and gratitude for what our bodies CAN do!
  • Let’s shift our thinking… instead of listing all the foods you CAN’T eat when you struggle with something like celiac disease, figure out all the foods you CAN eat.
  • Intuitive eating isn’t JUST about flavor (Elyse calls it “the tongue”)! It’s also about tuning into how we FEEL when we eat certain foods.
  • Intuitive eating is a combination of instinct, feeling, and thought!
  • How do we use our body, education, taste, and intellect to help guide us in our choices?
  • Healthy eating includes pleasure and satisfaction!!
  • If we don’t honor our hunger, we’ll put ourselves in a situation where we’re ravenous, and then we can’t find satisfaction in our food. Likewise, if we eat without hunger present, food just doesn’t taste as good! It’s all about finding the middle ground with hunger.
  • Feelings of deprivation lead directly to bingeing!
  • Shifting our mentality can open the door to profound healing.
  • Dieting doesn’t work!!
  • Lean into compassion… whatever we’ve done, we’ve done it because it’s what we thought we needed to do at the time. It was a way to cope! We can’t get mad at ourselves for doing our very best, even if it didn’t turn out to be a sustainable path for progress.
  • Come from a place of curiosity, rather than judgment.

Show Notes:

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I can’t get rid of the urge to binge eat {Ep 084 with Isabel Foxen Duke}

Do you feel like you’ve done everything to tackle your struggle with binge eating? Is there a constant battle in your head over cravings? Listen now to hear some solutions on how to overcome this food peace struggle.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • The recovery process is NOT linear, and it takes TIME.
  • Isabel Foxen Duke joins to talk about dieting, bingeing, and more!
  • Physical restriction is NOT THE SAME as emotional and psychological restriction… even if you’re eating “enough,” bingeing can still occur if you feel mental restriction. Diet mentality is the bigger thing to break down when trying to break free from bingeing!
  • Cravings are neutral things!! We don’t need to feel shame about them.
  • Emotional eating and binge eating are two different things! Emotional eating is when we eat something in order to make ourselves feel better. It’s a coping mechanism to distract, comfort, soothe or avoid a feeling. Binge eating, on the other hand, is a reaction to the diet mentality. Isabel calls is reactionary eating! For example, when you tell yourself you can’t have “x” food, all you want is “x” food, and then it results in a binge.
  • Food is never black and white!
  • Just because we think we’re eating “enough,” we actually may not be because we live in a restrictive, diet-culture world.
  • Diet mentality tells us that there’s a right and wrong way to eat. Giving up dieting is giving up an attitude around food that categorizes certain food behaviors as safe and others as unsafe.
  • “The Don’t Binge Eat Diet:” when you’re desperately trying to avoid and overcome the urge to binge, which only perpetuates a binge. Think about a bow and arrow… the farther back you pull the bow and the more tension your build, the farther that bow will fly in the other direction when you inevitably let go!
  • There’s NOTHING wrong with emotional eating!! The only reason why people fear emotional eating is because we fear getting fat.
  • Emotional eating turns into a binge when we decide that the action we’re doing is not okay and feel shameful about it.
  • Quitting dieting doesn’t just mean you’ve put down the calorie counts and the weight loss goals… it means we leave behind the “right” and “wrong” with food.
  • When we struggle with food, we have to ask, where is the restriction happening?? Where is the diet mentality hiding?
  • Not dieting is a physical AND emotional issue! 90% of recovering from dieting is about the diet mentality and diet attitudes, and only 10% of it is about the physical.
  • If you are clinging to ANY kind of wagon, you will inevitably fall off!
  • Permission to binge is step one!!
  • It’s time to overcome emotional restriction.
  • You have permission to be where you are right now, and to meet your needs in however you need to.

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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I can’t tolerate my changing body. {with Ellie Herman Pike}

Have you embraced body trust, but are suddenly up against a trigger such as body changes? Are you concerned about relapse, and are trying to maintain recovery through a stressful time? Listen now for advice on navigating this part of the food peace journey.

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This episode is brought to you by my PCOS summer series: Empowering Your PCOS Journey. You CAN make peace with food even with PCOS and I want to show you how. This series and our Facebook group will be with you every step of the way.

Episode’s Key Points:

  • Our bodies are ALWAYS changing, especially as women. We go through pregnancies, menopause… so how do we engage in body trust when our bodies keep changing??
  • Sometimes pregnancy can help grant a reprieve from an eating disorder.
  • Weight gain fears with pregnancy are so common!
  • Stressful transitions can trigger a relapse… Ellie Herman from Eating Recovery Center in Denver, Colorado joins to talk about how to keep us safe in these difficult times.
  • Anxiety about body changes is normal! Take a breath, and remind yourself that it’s going to be okay.
  • Eating disorders feel so isolating, but the truth is that you are not alone.
  • Sometimes people with a history of food and body struggles will place the stress and blame of new life changes on the body. We fixate there because that’s familiar! But the truth is that this body anxiety might be about something else entirely.
  • Find an eating disorder therapist or dietitian to help you on this journey.
  • Investigate what body discomfort means to you! Does it tend to come up with strong emotions, or with the stressors of life? Sit with that discomfort and fear and be curious about it.
  • Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT): If we try to push discomfort and fear away, it only brings on more discomfort and fear! Try connecting with your values, and continue living towards those values while still making space for that discomfort.
  • Post-pregnancy can be a big trigger for relapse… for new moms, remember that nourishment for yourself is also nourishment for your child! Focus on taking care of yourself, along with taking care of your new baby.
  • Start a gratitude practice to help ground you in your recovery.

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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I don’t know how to stop dieting.


Are you ready to leave dieting behind, but are too afraid to make that final leap and embrace intuitive eating? Are you looking for a way out, but aren’t sure where to turn? Listen now to hear some great tips to transition into this part of the food peace journey.

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This episode is brought to you by my PCOS summer series: Empowering Your PCOS Journey. You CAN make peace with food even with PCOS and I want to show you how. This series and our Facebook group will be with you every step of the way.

Episode’s Key Points:

  • Diets don’t work, and losing weight doesn’t actually fix any of our problems!
  • Dieting = MISERY!
  • Healthy eating includes pleasure! If a certain eating pattern HURTS, then it’s definitely a diet, and it’s definitely not health promoting.
  • We give food way too much power and brain space… we should only really have to think about food when it’s meal time! Food preoccupation can lead to unhealthy eating behaviors.
  • Compassion is key! It’s super common to avoid “healthy” or “diet” foods like fruits and veggies, or to overeat when you first abandon dieting and restriction, all in an effort to overcompensate and make sure you don’t fall back into disordered behaviors. So if you catch yourself engaging in these behaviors, just be kind and understanding to yourself. This is all a part of the mess of figuring out your own internal hunger, fullness, and satiety cues. And it won’t last forever!
  • This is a PROCESS! Food peace isn’t a fast journey.
  • Be curious about your eating behavior rather than judgmental. This will allow you to uncover the root of your food preoccupation!
  • You may have to think about food a lot when you first start the intuitive eating journey, but this won’t last. Think about learning how to drive or riding a bike… you have to think about it at first, but once you get it, it’s intuitive.
  • If jumping into intuitive eating still feels too scary, try experimenting with check-in times instead! Set an alarm so that you can check in with your hunger every three-ish hours throughout the day, every day. Make sure your check-in times go all the way until you’re asleep, and do an intentional body scan to check in with your hunger, fatigue, and other bodily needs. Eventually, this will get you into the habit of checking in with yourself consistently, but not obsessively.
  • Making peace with food is HARD, especially because we live in a world that hasn’t recovered yet. Find a dietitian and/or therapist, group therapy, or an online course to help you on this journey!

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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I only eat in front of the TV + want to change. {with Rachel Cole}

Do you tend to eat on the couch and with distractions, rather than at the dining room table? Are you someone that avoids the dining room table because of past trauma related to mealtime? Are you just trying to navigate this whole food peace journey, and are looking for some direction? Listen now for some steps you can take today.

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Check out this summer’s special blog post series: Empowering Your PCOS Journey. It aims to help you understand PCOS, improve your relationship with food, and advocate for better care. You will be hearing from nutrition grad student Kimberly Singh and her experiences with PCOS as well as evidenced based info to help arm yourself with the most up-to-date research.

We are so excited to release our first blog post on Wednesday June 14th.

Episode’s Key Points:

  • Vulnerability is a part of healing our relationship with food, but there is also a time and place for NOT being vulnerable! It’s all about balance.
  • Rachel Cole joins to talk more about vulnerability and food peace!
  • Having a nourishing and safe place during mealtime as a child is super important! If we don’t have that, it can really impact our relationship with food and eating in adulthood.
  • Expand your choices!! Your food behavior shouldn’t be dictated but “should’s,” but instead by what you honestly want to do.
  • There’s a time and a place for non-distracted eating, but don’t force it!
  • Eat where you feel SAFE.
  • There’s no timeline, should’s, or black and white thinking… it’s all about being “choiceful!”
  • Pleasure is an important part of the eating experience, and we should embrace that. Make sure that the food you’re eating is something that you WANT to experience.
  • How do we re-parent our traumatized childhood selves without giving them all the power? Reach out to a therapist to work through this struggle, and have an active dialogue with that child!
  • Put in the effort to make the dining area welcoming and safe… create a warm environment, and make the area available to you with zero pressure to eat there.
  • Make small steps… what would it be like to have one meal at the table? Or just a cup of tea? Start with the lowest hanging fruit! Immerse yourself in the experience with non-judgmental awareness.
  • We should strive to make ALL areas of our literal and metaphorical houses welcoming and comfortable for us.
  • Have compassion for the ways that we take care of ourselves, even if our coping mechanisms aren’t the most sustainable!!
  • If your experience doesn’t feel good, start getting curious about what would make it feel better.
  • EXPERIMENT!! Explore, get feedback from your body and your emotions, and continue to check in.
  • We are the expert of our own bodies… connect to your body, embrace embodiment, and explore body trust!
  • Listen to a podcast or invite or call a friend while eating if you’re feeling lonely and want company, and don’t feel like watching the television.
  • Don’t be afraid to reach out for support in any capacity to help you through this food peace journey!

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

Click here to leave me a review in iTunes and subscribe. This type of kindness helps the show continue!

Thank you for listening to the Love, Food series.