Do I stay fit or happy? {with Rosie Molinary}


Do you struggle with body image? Are you trying to find body peace, and to let go of body expectations? Listen now for some experiments to get through this part of the food peace journey.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • Making peace with food comes down to accepting ourselves! This includes accepting our needs and accepting the space we take up in the world.
  • Our bodies are NOT meant to be controlled!! They will change constantly as we get older.
  • Rosie Molinary joins to talk about body image!
  • We ALL have something unique to offer the world.
  • So much of our pain is related to our lack of awareness around our own self-worth. We are all fighting for our worth!
  • Remember, our worth isn’t rooted in our appearance. So how do we find our worthiness outside of our earth suit? We must remind ourselves that we are worthy simply by EXISTING!
  • We pour energy and money into how we physically look in order to feel accepted… but this removes resources from experiences in our lives that might have the potential to EMPOWER us instead of disempower us.
  • Diet culture and the beauty ideal PROFIT off of our insecurities.
  • Self-acceptance is a journey!!
  • All experiences are moments of information, rather than moments for judgment. Get curious!
  • Unpack the internalized messages we have been taught about appearance and self-worth.
  • We have to accept that our bodies ALWAYS change… so we can’t attach our worth to one stagnant version of our bodies, because that will always be in flux.
  • Imperfect cannot exist if there’s no “perfect” in the first place… resist messaging around “effortless” perfection!
  • The images we see of our world in the media are NOT REAL!
  • We have to anchor our faith and belief in ourselves to how we FEEL, rather than how we look.
  • Shaming ourselves NEVER works! It’s actually very damaging, and it’s not health promoting… we have to operate from a place of self-acceptance instead.
  • Remember, self-acceptance doesn’t mean that you don’t want to grow in some way. But it does assert your worthiness RIGHT NOW, no matter what growth you achieve down the line.
  • We’re the experts of our own bodies!
  • Self-acceptance is a super ACTIVE process.
  • How do we give ourselves what we need every single day?

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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The Love Food Podcast Episode 54 with Barbara Spanjers

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Have you finally settled into intuitive eating and experiencing more food peace? Yet, do you have trouble talking to close family who are still engaged in dieting? Or, feel conflicted with friends in their pursuit of weight loss when you have finally embraced your innate wisdom?

Are you having trouble supporting friends and family who are still on the diet track without pushing them away?

Listen now for some ideas and solutions on how to tackle this difficult issue.

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Key Points:

  • It’s still January, which means it’s still National Dieting Month! Find some respite from diet talk with my hashtag, #foodpeace, or email me at LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com.
  • Intuitive eating and healing our relationship to food and our body is a long, difficult process, but it’s worth it!
  • Intuitive eating: a way to relate to food that rejects diets and encourages people to connect to their internal body cues in order to know when to eat and what to eat.
    • 3 Components: Unconditional permission to eat, to rely on your own hunger and fullness cues, and eating for physical rather than emotional reasons.
    • It may sound simple, but it’s not easy!
  • NPR’s #SoAnyway Project: helped to guide people through political discourse with friends and family over the holidays after the 2016 Presidential election by giving alternative conversation starters and topics to focus on.
    • Take a page out of their book! Have a bunch of topics ready as conversation changers for when diet talk comes up and you just want to avoid and redirect.
  • Barbara Spanjers, Marriage and Family Therapist, joins for more insight and therapeutic guidance to help navigate this further.
  • When you start to heal your own relationship to food it is really hard to ignore the diet talk all around you!
  • Diet talk is everywhere in our society, it often is a bonding mechanism for women, and it frequently comes from the people we love… so how do we set those difficult boundaries? How do we find the balance between maintaining our relationships, not alienating those that think differently then we do, and not compromising our own recovery?
  • When people are discussing their diet plans, IT’S NOT ABOUT YOU! This is something super key to remember when these conversations are happening around you. It’s not about you, it’s about them, and approaching them with compassion rather than thinking they are making snide suggestions about you and your anti-diet decisions can be extremely helpful!
  • Barbara’s Stranger Things analogy: When you heal your relationship with food, you enter a place that others can’t even comprehend! You may feel like they’re trying to drag you back down, but really it’s that they can’t see what you can see. You are living in a completely different universe.
  • Changing the subject and shifting it is totally an option! Approach conversation topics with self-compassion and radical self-love, and see what happens!
    • For example, if someone says, “Wow, I’m just so fat,” you can respond with, “Oh, well I love you just the way you are!” You stop the diet talk in its tracks, meet your friend or family member with love and compassion, and maybe even begin to challenge their negative self-talk.
  • People with different ways of living can still have loving relationships.
  • Cognitive dissonance: when two opposing thoughts occupy one person’s mind, causing tension.
  • The more you try to teach someone an alternative perspective, the more people dig in their heels and cling to their beliefs. If we can understand this reaction more, we can approach friends and family with our alternative point of view in a more effective way.
  • Compassion is key!

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

Click here to leave me a review in iTunes and subscribe. This type of kindness helps the show continue!

Thank you for listening to the Love, Food series. Give me feedback via Twitter @EatingPermitRD.

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The Love Food Podcast Episode 52 with Rebecca Scritchfield

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Do you struggle with perfectionism? Have you tried to ditch the diet, but still find yourself obsessing over eating “right?” Do you have a hard time letting go of the weight loss goal, even if you are far into your intuitive eating journey? Does food feel like an all or nothing experience for you, either eating for pleasure or restricting for weight loss? Listen now for some advice on how to work through these issues.

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Key Points:

  • It’s National Dieting Month! Be sure to listen in on all the bonus episodes this month to help you avoid the excessive diet talk and fat-shaming gym membership chit chat!
  • Sometimes we can go into certain food restrictions, such as vegetarianism and veganism, with the best of intentions, but they can quickly spiral out of control and feel obsessive.
  • Weight loss is seductive!
  • How do we relate to food in a neutral, balanced way, rather than one that feels like an all-or-nothing, binge restrict cycle?
  • Perfectionism can stand in the way of feeling safe with food and trusting your body.
  • Rebecca Scritchfield joins for some more insight on this topic, and a conversation on body kindness!
  • Diet culture is toxic!! We all need some love and compassion when trying to tackle it.
  • If we’re trying to put ourselves first, embrace self-care, and embody self-acceptance but we have not yet fully accepted our bodies just as they are, this can lead to a common but difficult tug of war: to diet, or to drop the diet and plunge headfirst into body acceptance.
  • “Fears and anxieties can lead to desperate decisions and actions.” – Rebecca
  • How do we strive for a healthier, happier life in a holistic sense, rather than one that focuses on our size or shape?
  • Feeling stuck between dieting and self-acceptance is draining… how do we break out of that? Rebecca weighs in!
    • Acceptance even in the face of anxiety and discomfort.
    • Space to reflect and engage in compassionate and rational thinking.
  • “Perfectionism means unachievable!” – Rebecca
    • We must be able to question why we are holding ourselves accountable to something that we know no one else can achieve.
    • Practice setting up boundaries around perfectionism and asserting that it does not work for you!
    • STOP allowing it to control your choices.
  • Can we accept ourselves and love ourselves, but still hold weight loss as a goal?
    • If we sit with that desire, but choose not to pursue specific, unhelpful weight loss goals, and instead just bring those feelings along for the ride, eventually that desire will work itself out in favor of self-care and self-love.
    • Take the action that you would take if you were ALREADY the person you “want” to be, and take steps to enjoy life!
    • Eventually, the weight loss goal becomes less important just by doing the things that help you to love yourself more.
  • Diet culture is everywhere, and NOT engaging in diet culture is a huge job!
  • Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
  • Rebecca’s new book, Body Kindness!!
    • Guidance and flexible tips to engage in self-care in all aspects of your life.
    • Discussing the benefit of both good AND bad emotions!!
    • How to we set up sustainable, good goals?
    • The benefits of connection, compassion, and kindness… how do we engage in a meaningful life NOW?
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Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

Click here to leave me a review in iTunes and subscribe. This type of kindness helps the show continue!

Thank you for listening to the Love, Food series. Give me feedback via Twitter @EatingPermitRD.

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TAKE TIME TO INVEST IN YOU.

It’s time to shine the light on yourself and make YOURSELF the priority. Here at Green Mountain at Fox Run, we’re all about embracing and supporting yourself through self-care. Through powerful tools such as mindfulness techniques, stress management skills, and movement that is customized to your body and fitness level, you’ll learn to practice self-care in your daily life. Visit https://www.fitwoman.com/ for more information.

The Love Food Podcast Episode 51

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Have you hit diet rock bottom? Do you feel ready for self-love and food peace, but still feel like food is your number one enemy? Are you just plain scared of food, and terrified to abandon the diet mentality and finally embrace health at every size? Listen now for some tips on how to move forward.

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Key Points:

  • Reflections on National Dieting Month (January), my hashtag project, #foodpeace, and my weekly Food Peace Newsletter!
  • Diet rock bottom: the understanding that diets don’t work! … but it can be a tough and lonely place.
  • The New Year shenanigans: dieting and “self-improvement” can run rampant during this time of the year, and it can easily suck you back into the diet mentality.
  • Dieting is seductive because it shows the world that you “have your shit together,” especially if you “succeed” in losing the weight. It makes you feel in control of your life… but this is a sham! It’s a fantasy. Dieting is not sustainable, and weight loss is not sustainable.
  • How do you define “healthy” for you? Does it include yo-yo dieting, food and weight obsession, or social isolation? These habits do not promote lifelong health, happiness, or wellbeing. We need to redefine what healthy living means, and that definition may be very different from the definition we’ve been fed our whole lives.
    • My definition of healthy living: Living a life that’s connecting to others, to experiences, to challenges, and to joy; engaging in kind, intuitive choices; choosing self-compassion.
  • “There’s no way a long-term solution to health includes ignoring or punishing your hunger.” – Julie
  • Self-compassion is key when reflecting back on any of our food choices. When healing from diet culture, we’re going to make mistakes… LOTS of them. We must approach these with compassion and understand that it’s a part of the process.
  • Our world is one that promotes dieting as normal eating.
  • Recovery from dieting is going to take about a year or more, and the involvement of any kind of eating disorder will lengthen this process considerably, so give yourself the time to heal!
  • Choosing not to diet is NEVER the same as letting yourself go!!! It is letting yourself BE. It is giving yourself the opportunity to experience joy, compassion, and wellbeing.
  • Food is not the enemy. Instead, it should promote nourishment, health, connection, and peace.

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

Click here to leave me a review in iTunes and subscribe. This type of kindness helps the show continue!

Thank you for listening to the Love, Food series. Give me feedback via Twitter @EatingPermitRD.

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This episode is sponsored by my friends at Green Mountain at Fox Run.
A special promotion for Love Food listeners:
Join Green Mountain at Fox Run for their Binge & Emotional Eating Weekend Intensive (January 20-22, 2017). Participants will explore personal barriers and how to counter them with evidence-based strategies to prevent eating in response to stress and emotions. For more information or to register, please visit https://www.fitwoman.com/therapy-services-eating-disorder/offerings/binge-eating-intensive-weekend/.

TAKE TIME TO INVEST IN YOU.

It’s time to shine the light on yourself and make YOURSELF the priority. Here at Green Mountain at Fox Run, we’re all about embracing and supporting yourself through self-care. Through powerful tools such as mindfulness techniques, stress management skills, and movement that is customized to your body and fitness level, you’ll learn to practice self-care in your daily life. Visit https://www.fitwoman.com/ for more information.

 

The Love Food Podcast Episode 45

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Do you have a health situation that makes intuitive eating difficult? Do you have doctors telling you that weight loss and cutting out certain food groups is required for your wellbeing? Do you just feel lost and want to help guide yourself toward food peace?? Listen now for some first steps on how to tackle it all.

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Key Points:

  • Reflections on the 2016 Election, the President-elect Donald Trump, and the fat phobia that has come along with his campaign.
  • The difficulty in choosing not to diet, and dealing with the pressures from outside sources to continue down that path.
  • Using food as a coping mechanism and a numbing agent for uncomfortable feelings.
  • The vulnerability and fear of being thin.
  • Coping with health issues, such as PCOS, while also dealing with a disordered relationship with food and your body.
  • PCOS: weight gain, hormone destabilization, fatigue… what do we do??
  • Does intuitive eating really work for PCOS?? Or does “healing” PCOS require weight loss, as so many doctors suggest?
  • The million dollar question: can someone work on intuitive eating (rather than dieting) AND manage their health with PCOS? HELL YES!
  • Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome: a genetic and environmental syndrome that affects someone’s hormones, which leads to high insulin levels and insulin resistance. These high insulin levels lead to a high drive to eat, especially carbohydrates, which can lead to weight gain. Weight loss is often the primary treatment from most practitioners. This can make delving into intuitive eating difficult! Other sympotoms can include hair growth and male pattern baldness. These symptoms can have a huge negative impact on the body image of someone dealing with PCOS.
  • Self-care needs to be a priority for people with PCOS, especially getting enough sleep.
  • Those affected with PCOS can actually use the delicate balance of their bodies to delve deeply into intuitive eating! Take notice of energy levels and mood, rather than weight and even hunger cues (hunger cues can be super difficult to interpret with PCOS!).
  • Those with PCOS will probably need more protein than those without, especially at breakfast and before bed, to help with fatigue and appetite (but don’t cut out carboydrates or fats!).
  • Focus on healing your body and your soul… Sometimes, it’s not about the food!!
  • Sit with your vulnerability. (This is where therapy can come in handy! Therapists allow us the space to sit in that feeling.)
  • Put weight loss on the back burner and check in with your body… how does it feel today? What self-care did I do that worked for me today? This will help lead you to food peace and body peace.

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

Click here to leave me a review in iTunes and subscribe. This type of kindness helps the show continue!

Thank you for listening to the Love, Food series. Give me feedback via Twitter @EatingPermitRD.

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