Everyday starts out good then I binge. Am I broken? (Ep 112 with Dana Magee)

Is Food Peace™ and intuitive eating your goal, but you’re finding that being in a larger body is holding you back from that healing work? Listen now to get my tips on how to approach this part of the Food Peace™ journey.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • Food brings us health and connection, BUT it doesn’t deserve the amount of power that we give it in diet culture. Food can’t really cure us OR kill us!
  • Thin privilege is very, very real! Our ability to heal our relationship around food IS impacted by our size and how the world treats us based on that size.
  • You aren’t “bad” based on your food choices!
  • Food deprivation in our past can translate into our present in the form of dieting.
  • Boys and men are often given permission to take up more space in the world and consume more food without negative associations. But growing girls need nourishment too!
  • Intuitive eating is essential for Food Peace™, but it’s important not to turn it into yet another diet rule. It isn’t the eat-when-you’re-hungry-stop-when-you’re-full diet! It’s about listening to your body and being curious about how certain foods make you feel.
  • Intuitive eating is NOT a weight loss plan!!
  • The desire to be in a smaller body is often about the need to be accepted, rather than the need to actually be physically smaller.
  • Remember, you can still want to lose weight but not pursue it! The pursuit of weight loss is harmful for our health, but it can be hard to let go of that desire completely because we live in a fatphobic society. So put weight loss on the back-burner, otherwise Food Peace™ will continue to be out of reach. We can’t listen to our fullness and hunger cues and honor them if we’re worried about weight gain!
  • Historical deprivation gets in the way of our intuition around food, so it’s important to unpack that with an intuitive-eating professional.
  • Intuitive eating work takes time, it’s not linear, and it’s messy. And the work is never really over because we live in diet culture! You’re not doing it wrong. You’re just in the process like everyone else.
  • Too much of morality is wrapped up in our food choices, and it’s time to reject that!
  • If we don’t eat enough during the day, our body pushes us to eat more at the end of the day. This is the restrict-binge cycle, and to stop it, you need to eat more!

Show Notes:

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My past trauma keeps me from healing my relationship with food (Ep 110 with Julie Church and Kara Bazzi)

Are you struggling to accept your body size, even though you’ve made peace with food? Is past trauma still affecting our ability to find true and lasting recovery? Julie Church and Kara Bazzi join me to break down this part of the Food Peace™ journey.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • Working with a dietitian and therapist TEAM is so important for full recovery! Julie Church, RD, and Kara Bazzi, therapist, from Opal: Food + Body Wisdom Center join us to talk about this week’s letter.
  • Our eating behaviors are coping mechanisms, and sometimes we have to engage in some disordered behaviors to protect ourselves.
  • Shifting our relationship with our body is SO hard, especially when body hatred has plagued us for so long.
  • Seeking healing means there’s HOPE to find further growth and peace!
  • Our world is so, SO fatphobic, and it wrongly connects our weight to our health and our self-worth. Part of the work is disconnecting weight from these other factors.
  • Making peace with food and acting in self-care through nourishing ourselves does NOT mean you will lose weight, and it does NOT mean you’ll be in a smaller body! Food peace doesn’t equate to thinness.
  • Support yourself through this weight bias we experience by finding community. Advocate for yourself, and demand respect for your body! You deserve safe relationships.
  • Interrogate what’s behind the body hatred! Trauma, weight bias… these things can contribute to us not feeling safe in our bodies and disrupt our body image. Part of the process is striving for a more relational relationship with our bodies. Investigate some somatic work, and dig deep.

Show Notes:

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What will it take for me to have a normal relationship with food? {Ep 108}


Are you ready to let go of the food rules and embrace body acceptance, no matter your size? Is it time to cast aside the myths we’ve learned through diet culture about what we eat and what we look like? Listen now as I respond to a letter from someone ready to take those next steps.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • You CAN have a normal relationship with food! How do you do that? By placing the blame where it belongs: with society.
  • We live in a world where people judge body size, and where people make assumptions about what we eat based on our size… but this isn’t a true representation of the various experiences that people in ALL bodies have!
  • Most people of size are actually some of the MOST disciplined people out there due to years and years of trying to diet.
  • Weight Watchers just announced a special, free summer program for teens. This is a problem!! Dieting is the number one precursor for eating disorders, and the summer is a particularly vulnerable time.
  • The food we eat doesn’t dictate our moral value!
  • Losing weight and maintaining a smaller body size is about trying to find acceptance from the culture around us… but in reality, diets don’t provide long-term, true acceptance!
  • Diets give us the hope that we’ll be finally treated with respect and be able to participate in our lives to the fullest extent, in ways that we couldn’t before the weight loss. But this is a fantasy! First, losing weight doesn’t grant us these things automatically. And second, diets fail. Long-term intentional weight loss is virtually IMPOSSIBLE! And the diet industry knows it. They COUNT on repeat customers.
  • The blame is not on you. It’s on our world’s fatphobia. But there’s no simple cure for eradicating weight bias! So what have we got to do? We as individuals have to join together and take a stand, and that starts with acknowledging our own internalized fatphobia and rejecting it.
  • Practice respect and compassion with yourself, continue to place the blame on our society, continue to deconstruct your own bias, and eventually you’ll come to a place where you can call out the fatphobia around us. This is how we change the world for generations to come!

Show Notes:

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I feel so much shame around my binge eating and I can’t stop. {Ep 107}


Are you struggling with binge eating? Listen now for my tips to overcome shame and break out of this part of the Food Peace™ journey.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • People who binge are often overcome with shame, but shame doesn’t promote real and effective change! But there are ways to find Food Peace™ if you’re struggling with binge eating.
  • YOU don’t need to be fixed. The WORLD needs to be fixed!
  • Our eating choices aren’t largely about personal responsibility… it’s bigger than that.
  • Shame contributes to the compulsive feelings we may have around food. If we can cast aside that shame, we can move closer to health. But how do we take away our shame? It starts with embracing ourselves for exactly who we are, and giving ourselves permission.
  • What would happen if you gave yourself permission to binge eat or compulsively eat? Permission and respect will help strip away the shame associated with the behavior.
  • We don’t have to love where we are right now in our body size or our behavior, but we can make room to accept these things and embrace body respect.
  • Your weight doesn’t matter! You can’t tell anything about someone’s health by looking at their body weight.
  • Internalized fatphobia is likely contributing to this shame you’re experiencing with binge eating. That means you need to break down this fatphobia, rather than pursue weight loss for health.
  • Weight loss is not a behavior. We have no long-term control over our weight. The more we try to lose weight, the more disconnected we become from our internal wisdom, the more shame we feel, and the farther from health we get.
  • Our body is WAY more complex than calories-in-calories-out! Food is so much more complex than good food and bad food.
  • Until you feel like you have unconditional permission to eat, ANY nutritional adjustments to our diet won’t stick! Plus, unconditional permission to eat will likely result is a more varied diet, which is more highly correlated with good health.
  • As parents, there are some things we can do to promote healthy eating:
    • Provide a variety of foods.
    • Have consistent meal and snack times to help with predictability.
    • Teach kids the pleasurable side of food.

Show Notes:

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Why can’t I promote self-compassion AND weight loss? {Ep 106 with Charlotte Caperton-Kilburn}

Are you wondering how you can balance pursuing joyful movement with finding Food Peace™? Listen now as my guest for this week, Charlotte Caperton-Kilburn, and give our suggestions.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • Bodies change, and we have to let the body be where it needs to be! Following through with certain health behaviors might result in weight loss, but it might not… you never know, and so the goal can’t be weight loss.
  • Let’s talk about metabolism: when you normalize your eating habits, your metabolism is in a better place, and your body can get to exactly where it wants to be.
  • We have to honor our hunger and our fullness! This allows our body to regulate itself.
  • If you want to incorporate movement into your life, that’s great! Just make sure it’s something you actually enjoy, and make sure you’re doing it as a form of self-care rather than as a form of compensation or punishment. And make sure you’re eating enough to fuel these forms of movement!
  • Chronic dieting really messes up our metabolism and equilibrium! But when we establish a sense of consistency with our food and movement, we help our bodies find a nice balance.
  • Don’t worry, moving away from the weight-loss paradigm won’t mess up your business in the long term! Clients can see that their health improves over time without the weight loss, and you can help keep them on track with a Health at Every Size approach.
  • Get off the fence! Make your anti-diet approach clear to your clients from the get-go.

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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