Have you worked really hard to stop hating your body but feel like your family keeps holding you back? Do you find yourself dealing with the food police within your own family, even after you’ve begun to make peace with food yourself? Do you have family that encourages fat shaming and diet culture, even when you feel like you’re doing your best to rid yourself of the mindset?? Listen now as Julie tackles this family-oriented topic and introduces some solutions.
- What is the experience of finding peace with food while family members surrounding us stay stuck in the diet mentality?
- Fat shaming can come from people we care about!
- Setting our own boundaries is SUPER important in trying to protect your own recovery.
- The world that we live in isn’t one of body-positivity, HAES, and size acceptance. This means that when we pursue recovery, we are going against the vast majority of society, and sometimes that means our families. This makes the work harder to do, but it is that much more important!
- Going against family dynamics is super hard, and when we actively follow our own path, it is common to feel pressure to go with the flow and back off of our own personal work in order to appease the family.
- When we RECOGNIZE any emotion we are having, it automatically diffuses it and breaks its power.
- How to beat body comparison: recognize the emotion, remove its power, and counteract with readily available responses of self-compassion.
- How do we connect with our self-compassion?? We must actively find ways to support self-compassion for the moments in which we feel vulnerable.
- Remember, our feelings and experiences are not going to last forever!!
- Have some ready-made comebacks to assert your recovery, either by facing it head on or by changing the subject.
- Surviving the Holidays and National Diet Month : #SoAnyway
- How do we empower ourselves to connect to peace and health and feeling comfortable in our own skin?
- When we provide new visuals for ourselves that are more size-diverse, it provides another option for our brains to think that OTHER kinds of bodies are beautiful too!
- IT’S NOT OUR JOB TO FIX OUR FAMILY!
- We should spend our energy on keeping ourselves safe, setting our own boundaries, and focusing on ensuring that we are providing the best modeling for our own family in terms of having a healthy relationship with food.
- Embrace self-compassion, boundaries, and self-care.
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- Dear Virgie: How Do I Deal With My Mom’s Fatphobia and Concern Trolling?, Wear Your Voice
- Embrace, the documentary
- Secrets of Feeding a Healthy Family by Ellyn Satter
- Eating Disorder Dietitians
- Julie Dillon RD blog
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