I have always felt ashamed of my body. {with Antonia Hartley}

Do you feel shame around your relationship with food and your body? Are you worried about disclosing your eating behavior to a current partner or loved one? Do you find yourself thinking about food all the time? Listen now for some concrete solutions to overcome these barriers to food peace.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • Shame is so common in the eating disorder experience!!
  • Antonia Hartley joins to help tackle this letter writer’s struggles…
  • Eating disorders make us feel so alone and isolated, but there are many people dealing with the same issues.
  • Insight and awareness are vital to finding recovery and healing, but it can only take you so far. It’s important to work with a dietitian or other eating disorder professional to find lasting recovery and make changes!
  • Finding a Health at Every Size dietitian to work with is SUPER important to make sure you’re in a safe environment to find help.
  • If you’re thinking about food all day long, definitely inquire if you’re eating enough! Sometimes restriction is physical or mental, and adequacy with food is very important!! If you’re bingeing, it’s likely that you’re NOT getting enough, no matter what size you are.
  • It’s NOT as simple as calories in, calories out. Our metabolism is MUCH more complicated than that!
  • Sometimes there is fear in letting go of our eating disorder because there is a small part of us that feels these diet rules are serving us in some way… but they’re not!
  • “Honesty is the antithesis of eating disorder behavior.” – Antonia
  • Relationships are SO important in eating disorder recovery! Be honest with those you love, and set the boundaries around triggers.
  • Eating behaviors can be a messenger for our emotions or our needs… listen to them!
  • If you’re in a situation where someone in your life is consistently triggering you, don’t be afraid to bring them into a therapy session with you to parse out exactly what you need from them as a loved one. Remember, we live in diet-culture world, so give your loved ones some time to adjust to this new way of life!
  • Be aware of your own internalized fat stigma when exploring recovery.
  • You weren’t born with food rules!! These are LEARNED behaviors and “truths.”
  • Checking back in with your treatment team post-recovery is SO important! Remember, we live in a world that hasn’t recovered from its own eating disorder, so having a supportive community around you is essential for maintaining recovery.
  • On feminism: Feminism is for everyone, not just women! Ending sexism is good for everyone.
  • Ending weight stigma helps everyone!

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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How do I get off the diet ⇢ binge cycle? {guest Judith Matz}

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Are you stuck at diet rock bottom? Do you feel shame about your food behaviors and your body? Are you struggling with the diet/binge cycle, looking for support on this food and body peace journey, and trying to break free from the diet mentality? Listen now for some solutions to these challenges.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • The common experience with food and body struggles is SHAME. That shame can prevent people from getting the help they need!
  • Diet rock bottom: the realization that diets just aren’t going to work anymore.
  • Judith Matz joins to give us a therapist’s perspective!
  • The diet story is always the same, but everyone has their own unique journey. You are not alone!!
  • One comment can lead to a lifelong feeling of shame about the body.
  • People are often stuck in the diet/binge cycle for so long!!
  • By sharing our stories and experiences, we can break out of the shame.
  • Before we start bringing in and stocking up on our forbidden foods, we have to connect with our hunger and fullness cues and rebuild those muscles.
  • When we say we can’t have a food, we are more prone to eating it all!! On the flip side, when we make forbidden foods “normal” and give ourselves permission, they become less special. Those forbidden foods become just like any other!
  • Sometimes we need some help on this journey, whether that’s a group, a therapist, or a dietitian trained in intuitive eating.
  • Food peace is so hard because we live in a world that moralizes food, adheres to the thin ideal, and equates size to health. This work can feel impossible if you don’t have a great support system behind you!
  • Understanding weight stigma is a huge part of this process!! We internalize beliefs about weight and worthiness… letting go of these beliefs about the body can be the hardest part of this process.
  • Weight discrimination hurts everyone, and affects all of us negatively!! It’s a social justice issue that we all have to work hard to change in our culture so that we can find body peace.
  • We pass messages down about food and body to our kids all the time that lead them into the diet/binge cycle, but there are ways to stop this pattern!

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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Thank you for listening to the Love, Food series. Give me feedback via Twitter @EatingPermitRD.

 

The Love Food Podcast Episode 56 with Joanne and Jonah Soolman

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Have you been told that following diets and maintaining a certain weight is necessary to be healthy? Do you find that rejecting diets feels difficult because of the culture we live in? Are you thinking about cutting out certain foods to help manage a health issue? Listen now for some help with these varied obstacles to #FoodPeace.

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Key Points:

  • Intuitive eating: a way to relate to food without dieting, relying on your own hunger and fullness cues to decide when to eat and how much to eat, unconditional permission to eat what you need and want, and finding ways to deal with our emotions without food.
  • Medical Nutrition Therapy (MNT): when someone use food to help manage their disease and prevent disease progression.
  • Joanne and Jonah Soolman of Soolman Nutrition and Wellness join to discuss disease management using nutrition and intuitive eating!
  • Coming out of dieting and entering intuitive eating can be really difficult! It’s a huge mindset shift, and some people may feel ambivalent about the transition.
    • Intuitive eating is complete 180 degree shift from diet culture, which is something we have been taught from a super young age. Diet culture includes “truths” such as fat is unhealthy etc. It makes sense that we might have strong feelings in opposing directions (ambivalence)… the research doesn’t support diets, but dies are what we’ve been taught to believe in. So what now?
    • By recognizing ambivalence, we can help individuals empower themselves to make their own decision!
  • People who are considered “overweight” or “obese” have healthier outcomes when they engage in healthy behaviors, regardless of weight.
  • Dieting is an all or nothing approach! Sometimes this leads people to feel like they’re going to go out of control with food when they give up dieting for good and shift to intuitive eating.
  • When we leave dieting behind, it may actually feel like a void has been created. This attachment and anxiety is normal!
  • Intuitive eating takes time!!! Generally speaking, if someone is completely recovered from an eating disorder, it takes about a year to move through all of the intuitive eating principles.
  • Fear of weight gain can be a huge deterrent for people to commit to intuitive eating.
  • Intuitive eating is a process, so be patient and let it work itself out!
  • How do we deal with feeling like our weight is causing us physical pain?
    • We have to consider that weight may not be the issue. Bodies get older, and this makes them hurt. It may not be the weight at all, and it might be more beneficial to try and strengthen certain muscles or change up exercise routines to alleviate stress on the body.
    • We also have to not make weight the focal point. 95% of diets fail, and most people regain more weight than was lost… so if you try to lose weight to help alleviate chronic pain, you may actually make it worse in the long run!
    • Thin people have joint and knee pain at a certain age… it isn’t necessarily the weight!
    • There are other ways to relieve pain! Doctors, physical therapists, Advil…
  • Can you name one disease that fat people have that thin people don’t? NO!
  • How do we explore managing a disease with our food?
    • First we have to meet our essential food needs (Ellyn Satter’s Hierarchy of Food Needs)… intuitive eating is part of these essential, baseline needs!
    • Medical Nutrition Therapy: managing a medical condition through food. It is a part of our food needs as well, but it is at the very top of pyramid, and one of the last things to worry about.
    • If you have chronic, rather than acute health conditions, allow yourself to build a solid foundation in intuitive eating. Once you are secure in that, then you can add MNT in! Otherwise MNT could spiral into just another diet.
  • Be careful when trying to cut out foods in the name of health! There’s a lot of dietary guidelines out there that are extremely restrictive, and extreme restriction leads to bingeing.
  • Disease is gradual. One cookie or one milkshake is not going to cause the onset of diabetes, for example.
  • We must work through our fear of deprivation before we make food choices in the name of health.
  • TRUST THE PROCESS! THINGS ARE NEVER LINEAR!!

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

Click here to leave me a review in iTunes and subscribe. This type of kindness helps the show continue!

Thank you for listening to the Love, Food series. Give me feedback via Twitter @EatingPermitRD.

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The Love Food Podcast Episode 55

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Do you feel that you’ve made peace with food, but are still struggling to make peace with your body? Have you gained weight on your anti-diet, intuitive eating journey, and are now trying to work through your emotions related to this weight gain? Are you feeling a loss from letting go of dieting? Listen now for some ways to get started on body peace and diet mourning.

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Key Points:

  • National Dieting Month has reached its end! CHEERS!
  • Don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review!! It really helps people who need to break free from dieting find the podcast and begin their journey to find food peace. Thank you to everyone who has left a review so far!
  • For those of you early on in your intuitive eating journey, this letter writer lets us know that part of intuitive eating is learning that eating past fullness is uncomfortable, and therefore it just isn’t something we usually do when we have a healthy relationship with food. Sometimes we eat past fullness to be sure, it happens! But that isn’t the norm, and it doesn’t fill us with guilt anymore when we do eat past fullness.
  • Recovery takes time… it’s a marathon, not a sprint! Connecting to your body can feel unsafe or uncomfortable in early recovery, so be patient when trying to tap into your intuition.
  • Healthy eating includes flexibility!!
  • The only way to learn how to rely on your own hunger, fullness, and satiety cues is trial and error.
  • Intuitive eating = mindful eating = attuned eating.
  • You are allowed to eat things JUST BECAUSE. Unconditional permission to eat is a super important part of intuitive eating, but it can be the scariest!
  • Sometimes through intuitive eating we find that foods we were obsessed with during our disordered days are foods that we actually don’t even like.
  • There is often a mourning process when we let go of dieting because dieting sells us the lie of a perfect, happy life. But don’t avoid that grief! Feel what you’re experiencing, and remember that this feeling won’t last forever.
  • Seek out leaders in the body acceptance community to help you work through this grief.
  • The next step is embracing the social justice aspect of diets, and fighting for marginalized groups in the body peace movement.

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

Click here to leave me a review in iTunes and subscribe. This type of kindness helps the show continue!

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The Love Food Podcast Episode 51

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Have you hit diet rock bottom? Do you feel ready for self-love and food peace, but still feel like food is your number one enemy? Are you just plain scared of food, and terrified to abandon the diet mentality and finally embrace health at every size? Listen now for some tips on how to move forward.

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Key Points:

  • Reflections on National Dieting Month (January), my hashtag project, #foodpeace, and my weekly Food Peace Newsletter!
  • Diet rock bottom: the understanding that diets don’t work! … but it can be a tough and lonely place.
  • The New Year shenanigans: dieting and “self-improvement” can run rampant during this time of the year, and it can easily suck you back into the diet mentality.
  • Dieting is seductive because it shows the world that you “have your shit together,” especially if you “succeed” in losing the weight. It makes you feel in control of your life… but this is a sham! It’s a fantasy. Dieting is not sustainable, and weight loss is not sustainable.
  • How do you define “healthy” for you? Does it include yo-yo dieting, food and weight obsession, or social isolation? These habits do not promote lifelong health, happiness, or wellbeing. We need to redefine what healthy living means, and that definition may be very different from the definition we’ve been fed our whole lives.
    • My definition of healthy living: Living a life that’s connecting to others, to experiences, to challenges, and to joy; engaging in kind, intuitive choices; choosing self-compassion.
  • “There’s no way a long-term solution to health includes ignoring or punishing your hunger.” – Julie
  • Self-compassion is key when reflecting back on any of our food choices. When healing from diet culture, we’re going to make mistakes… LOTS of them. We must approach these with compassion and understand that it’s a part of the process.
  • Our world is one that promotes dieting as normal eating.
  • Recovery from dieting is going to take about a year or more, and the involvement of any kind of eating disorder will lengthen this process considerably, so give yourself the time to heal!
  • Choosing not to diet is NEVER the same as letting yourself go!!! It is letting yourself BE. It is giving yourself the opportunity to experience joy, compassion, and wellbeing.
  • Food is not the enemy. Instead, it should promote nourishment, health, connection, and peace.

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

Click here to leave me a review in iTunes and subscribe. This type of kindness helps the show continue!

Thank you for listening to the Love, Food series. Give me feedback via Twitter @EatingPermitRD.

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TAKE TIME TO INVEST IN YOU.

It’s time to shine the light on yourself and make YOURSELF the priority. Here at Green Mountain at Fox Run, we’re all about embracing and supporting yourself through self-care. Through powerful tools such as mindfulness techniques, stress management skills, and movement that is customized to your body and fitness level, you’ll learn to practice self-care in your daily life. Visit https://www.fitwoman.com/ for more information.