The Love Food Podcast Episode 53

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Do you have a history of addiction to substances, and also have a difficult relationship to food? Have you ever been involved in a 12-step program? Are you trying to experience connection and joy with your body and others, and attempting to reach out to support groups for help, but find them to be a hotbed of diet culture rather than a healing place that cultivates self-acceptance? Listen now as we break it all down, and help you find food peace.

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Key Points:

  • The pursuit of weight loss will only keep us from connecting with our body and others, and keep giving food power over our lives.
  • Have you worked with a support group that you like? If you have, let me know by shooting me an email at LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com!
  • Love, Food is one year old, and I’m not stopping anytime soon!! Leave a rating and review on iTunes to push us up in the rankings, help other people find the show who need support around food, and make my day!
  • Overeaters Anonymous: Good? Bad? Useful? Does abstinence from “trigger foods” work? Is using food to cope with emotions the same as using drugs or alcohol? Are OA’s original intentions reflected in the current programs?
    • No matter what our personal opinion, anyone who has improved their relationship to food through the program is valid and their stories are their own!
  • You are not alone! Many people who deal with addiction to substances also deal with difficult relationships to food.
  • OA and abstinence: Many people who went to OA wanted to find abstinence from dieting, but instead were told to be abstinent from certain food groups (e.g. sugar, flours).
  • “The pursuit of weight loss is part of that powerlessness that we feel over food.” – Julie
  • When we pursue weight loss, we inevitably focus heavily on food choice and become obsessional. But this isn’t a failure, and this doesn’t mean you are addicted to food! Instead, it is our body’s way of making sure we don’t starve it. Once we have unconditional permission to eat, the addictive feeling of food tends to dissipate, and the feeling of being powerless around food becomes less of an issue.
  • The spiritual component and group support of OA can be super beneficial and healing for some people.
  • Eating Disorder Anonymous (EDA): no abstinence required, but also incorporates the group support and spiritual components that many people find fulfilling in OA! There are also other dietitians out there who provide group support through online intuitive eating and eating disorder communities.
  • Tapping into our wisdom and allowing it to guide you is so key to figuring out if certain things are right for you in your path to recovery!
  • Trust your instincts!!

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

Click here to leave me a review in iTunes and subscribe. This type of kindness helps the show continue!

Thank you for listening to the Love, Food series. Give me feedback via Twitter @EatingPermitRD.

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This episode is sponsored by my friends at Green Mountain at Fox Run.
A special promotion for Love Food listeners:
Join Green Mountain at Fox Run for their Binge & Emotional Eating Weekend Intensive (January 20-22, 2017). Participants will explore personal barriers and how to counter them with evidence-based strategies to prevent eating in response to stress and emotions. For more information or to register, please visit https://www.fitwoman.com/therapy-services-eating-disorder/offerings/binge-eating-intensive-weekend/.

TAKE TIME TO INVEST IN YOU.

It’s time to shine the light on yourself and make YOURSELF the priority. Here at Green Mountain at Fox Run, we’re all about embracing and supporting yourself through self-care. Through powerful tools such as mindfulness techniques, stress management skills, and movement that is customized to your body and fitness level, you’ll learn to practice self-care in your daily life. Visit https://www.fitwoman.com/ for more information.

The Love Food Podcast Episode 52 with Rebecca Scritchfield

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Do you struggle with perfectionism? Have you tried to ditch the diet, but still find yourself obsessing over eating “right?” Do you have a hard time letting go of the weight loss goal, even if you are far into your intuitive eating journey? Does food feel like an all or nothing experience for you, either eating for pleasure or restricting for weight loss? Listen now for some advice on how to work through these issues.

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Key Points:

  • It’s National Dieting Month! Be sure to listen in on all the bonus episodes this month to help you avoid the excessive diet talk and fat-shaming gym membership chit chat!
  • Sometimes we can go into certain food restrictions, such as vegetarianism and veganism, with the best of intentions, but they can quickly spiral out of control and feel obsessive.
  • Weight loss is seductive!
  • How do we relate to food in a neutral, balanced way, rather than one that feels like an all-or-nothing, binge restrict cycle?
  • Perfectionism can stand in the way of feeling safe with food and trusting your body.
  • Rebecca Scritchfield joins for some more insight on this topic, and a conversation on body kindness!
  • Diet culture is toxic!! We all need some love and compassion when trying to tackle it.
  • If we’re trying to put ourselves first, embrace self-care, and embody self-acceptance but we have not yet fully accepted our bodies just as they are, this can lead to a common but difficult tug of war: to diet, or to drop the diet and plunge headfirst into body acceptance.
  • “Fears and anxieties can lead to desperate decisions and actions.” – Rebecca
  • How do we strive for a healthier, happier life in a holistic sense, rather than one that focuses on our size or shape?
  • Feeling stuck between dieting and self-acceptance is draining… how do we break out of that? Rebecca weighs in!
    • Acceptance even in the face of anxiety and discomfort.
    • Space to reflect and engage in compassionate and rational thinking.
  • “Perfectionism means unachievable!” – Rebecca
    • We must be able to question why we are holding ourselves accountable to something that we know no one else can achieve.
    • Practice setting up boundaries around perfectionism and asserting that it does not work for you!
    • STOP allowing it to control your choices.
  • Can we accept ourselves and love ourselves, but still hold weight loss as a goal?
    • If we sit with that desire, but choose not to pursue specific, unhelpful weight loss goals, and instead just bring those feelings along for the ride, eventually that desire will work itself out in favor of self-care and self-love.
    • Take the action that you would take if you were ALREADY the person you “want” to be, and take steps to enjoy life!
    • Eventually, the weight loss goal becomes less important just by doing the things that help you to love yourself more.
  • Diet culture is everywhere, and NOT engaging in diet culture is a huge job!
  • Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
  • Rebecca’s new book, Body Kindness!!
    • Guidance and flexible tips to engage in self-care in all aspects of your life.
    • Discussing the benefit of both good AND bad emotions!!
    • How to we set up sustainable, good goals?
    • The benefits of connection, compassion, and kindness… how do we engage in a meaningful life NOW?
    • A special discount for Love Food listeners available for a limited time: order Body Kindness and get 25% off with the code KIND at this link https://www.workman.com/products/body-kindness

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

Click here to leave me a review in iTunes and subscribe. This type of kindness helps the show continue!

Thank you for listening to the Love, Food series. Give me feedback via Twitter @EatingPermitRD.

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This episode is sponsored by my friends at Green Mountain at Fox Run.
A special promotion for Love Food listeners:
Join Green Mountain at Fox Run for their Binge & Emotional Eating Weekend Intensive (January 20-22, 2017). Participants will explore personal barriers and how to counter them with evidence-based strategies to prevent eating in response to stress and emotions. For more information or to register, please visit https://www.fitwoman.com/therapy-services-eating-disorder/offerings/binge-eating-intensive-weekend/.

TAKE TIME TO INVEST IN YOU.

It’s time to shine the light on yourself and make YOURSELF the priority. Here at Green Mountain at Fox Run, we’re all about embracing and supporting yourself through self-care. Through powerful tools such as mindfulness techniques, stress management skills, and movement that is customized to your body and fitness level, you’ll learn to practice self-care in your daily life. Visit https://www.fitwoman.com/ for more information.

The Love Food Podcast Episode 48 with Lauren Anton

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Do you feel like your preoccupation and shame around food and your body end up making you miss out on parts of your life? Do you feel embarrassed and judged by your size, and often find other peoples’ comments about your weight triggering? Are you a person of size trying to navigate the professional world of health and nutrition while still feeling comfortable in your own skin? Listen now for some solutions on overcoming the shame and judgment around your body size.

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Key Points:

  • The importance of size diversity in the nutrition and dietetics profession.
  • Diets and kids: So often, kids are put on diets at a young age because they are considered “overweight.” This often does more harm than good, and ends up creating a breeding ground for a disordered relationships with food to grow.
  • Lauren Anton joins to answer the writer’s letter!
  • The unfair expectations placed on people in the health and wellness professions to look and act a certain way.
  • Surround yourself with like-minded folks who subscribe to an all-foods-fit, HAES mentality rather than people who are obsessed with food, calories, over-exercising, and dieting in order to avoid being around people who might be entrenched in weight stigma.
  • Some schools are adding advocacy and size diversity to their nutrition curriculum!
  • Weight loss is not the goal!!! Let’s be advocates of size diversity, rather than forcing everyone into one specific body type.
  • Would you say an English bulldog should look like a pit bull???? AKA, our bodies are the size and shape they are meant to be, and we should never try to force them to be something different.
  • “The body’s gonna do what it will.” – Lauren
  • How we relate to food mirrors how we relate to others and ourselves.
  • If we let judgment control our food choices, it only leads to weight cycling and a tumultuous relationship with food.
  • We must learn to love, respect, and accept ourselves!
  • Being in a larger body is not the bad thing. The way we treat and perceive the larger body is the bad thing.
  • Mindful eating and hunger/fullness techniques are not another diet!
  • Part of engaging with food is allowing joy.
  • You are worthy of nourishment no matter your size!!!

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

Click here to leave me a review in iTunes and subscribe. This type of kindness helps the show continue!

Thank you for listening to the Love, Food series. Give me feedback via Twitter @EatingPermitRD.

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This episode is sponsored by my friends at Green Mountain at Fox Run.
A special promotion for Love Food listeners:
Immerse yourself in a practice of mindfulness. Join Green Mountain at Fox Run for “Mindfulness for Women Who Struggle With Food and Body – A Meditative Retreat”, designed to help you reduce stress, eat well, move joyfully, and guide the way toward ending eating and food struggles. For dates and registration information, please visit

www.fitwoman.com/weight-loss-program-reinvented/2017-mindfulness-weekend/.

The Women’s Center for Binge and Emotional Eating at Green Mountain at Fox Run is the only clinical program in the nation solely for women suffering with binge & emotional eating. Their insurance-eligible program is backed by over 40 years of experience and is staffed by licensed clinicians. Their program has created life-altering changes by helping women to manage emotional overeating through the practice of mindfulness. For more information, visit www.fitwoman.com/binge.

The Love Food Podcast Episode 44 with Fiona Sutherland

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Do you have a hard time eating without worrying about “good” and “bad” food labels? Do you feel like food is your enemy? Do you feel overwhelmed by all the nutrition info out there? Join Julie and fellow dietitian Fiona Southerland to start unpacking this issue!

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Key Points:

  • Our bodies have lots of different methods, including our brains and our intuition, to help them figure out what they needs in terms of food in order to feel satisfied and full.
  • Healthy eating includes PLEASURE!
  • Fiona Southerland joins to help answer this week’s letter!
  • Self-compassion and kindness is super important when we confront our beliefs related to food rules.
  • We are not alone… so many of us feel this way.
  • It’s impossible to follow every single food rule!
  • The more we try to follow rules and live in our heads (intellectualizing!), the less we listen to our body and intuition (innate wisdom!).
  • There are so many crazy things going on in the world… why are we focused on whether or not something has gluten in it?!
  • Even the professionals don’t know everything about nutrition… it’s confusing!
  • When we try to control things that weren’t supposed to be controlled (like our food intake) we go haywire.
  • Our culture is confusing health with our appearance (like our body shape).
  • Our expectations about the female body inform our opinions of health.
  • Fiona’s “Build up and let go model:” build up our skills of inner awareness, which will allow us to let go of rigidity.
  • We need skills related to our intuition in order to drop the food rules and stick to it!
  • How do we find a stable place outside of food when we feel out of control with our body?
  • The wise parts of us are not perfect!
  • Intuitive eating can become another set of diet rules… don’t let it!
  • The foundation of intuitive eating is unconditional permission to eat.
  • We must help people build long-term resilience against the cultural crap! Self-care and personal connection are super helpful for our wellbeing, and we have to return to our well of wisdom and call upon a stable place of self-compassion to take care or ourselves and move past cultural expectations.
  • Intuitive eating is s different way of BEING with food. It’s peace. But it’s scary, and that’s okay!
  • Perfectionism and the all-or-nothing approach can get in the way of healing around food.
  • Fiona says, “Reassurance without assurance”… we will support you through the confusion!
  • HEALING YOUR RELATIONSHIP TO FOOD IS MESSY!! (Cultivate the mess!)
  • Although knowledge is important, it can take us away from living. It’s time to slow down and hone in on our intuition.

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

Click here to leave me a review in iTunes and subscribe. This type of kindness helps the show continue!

Thank you for listening to the Love, Food series. Give me feedback via Twitter @EatingPermitRD.

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Healthy Eating includes Pleasure

HEALTHY EATING includes pleasure

So you enjoyed that lunch. That killer sandwich on the perfect roll with a side of French fries. After a draining morning it has left you energized and satisfied. Can’t say that about many things yet can with food right now.

Before you scorn enjoying that meal and its emotional arousal, pause. A part of healthy eating includes pleasure. It also includes emotional eating and connections. Ellyn Satter RD, LCSW says, “When we take the joy out of eating, nutrition suffers.” One of my favorite dietitian quotes. When we hate what we are eating and just eat it because it is another should or it is clean or organic or low in the hated-macronutrient-of-the-moment, we are missing the point.

The point is our body needs to be satisfied with food. It needs a balance of fat and carbs. It needs sweet and salty. Soft and hard and chewy. Our bodies have evolved to survive on food based on getting pleasure needs met. Denying pleasure from eating sets us up to experience disordered eating including binges.

Want to experience healthy eating? Ask your body what it will enjoy right now. Ask it what would satisfy it. Then, give it what it wants. Listen with attunement and provide.