I’m a food addict. I will never make peace with you. (Episode 117)

Have you ever described your relationship with food as an addiction? Do you think that Food Peace™ will never work for you because you’re addicted to certain kinds of food? Listen now to get my take on this Food Peace™ challenge.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • Your feelings about being addicted to food are valid… BUT, it’s important to investigate WHY we feel that way, and to dig deeper.
  • We live in a world where controlling our food and having a certain body size are thought to go hand-in-hand. We think that if we eat less, we’re going to weigh less, and that people in larger bodies just don’t have “discipline” when it comes to food. But this just isn’t true!!
  • Internalized fatphobia and the desire to find acceptance in our thin-obsessed culture can drive us towards dieting, and the desire to restrict our food. It can also push us towards removing pleasure from our lives, whether it’s about food, sex, or anything else!
  • If we were allowed to embrace pleasure, I think that the feeling of addiction around food would change.
  • If we aren’t giving ourselves PERMISSION to have pleasure, we are going to subconsciously restrict and deprive ourselves of food.
  • This is not your fault! Our body pushes us to be preoccupied with food when we deprive ourselves of food. Restriction keeps the food-preoccupation going!!
  • Compassion and permission are key, not keeping ourselves “under control.”
  • Name the moments when food has too much power!!
  • Our bodies and our brains just want us to stay alive, and the feeling of food addiction is actually how our bodies continue to try and stay alive.
  • Remember, your needs aren’t a burden. You are NOT too needy! Redefine your expectations around meeting your needs.
  • Consider how thin privilege plays a role in feeling like we need to fix ourselves. Put the anger and the burden where it belongs! Not on us, but on the fatphobic society in which we live.
  • Strive for embodiment, pleasure, satisfaction, and compassion.
  • Patients with PCOS often experience even more intense feelings about being addicted to food, especially because most doctors encourage people with PCOS to cut out carbs. But carbs are not the enemy! By removing them from your diet, you just increase the need for them, and the feeling of being out of control around them.

Show Notes:

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I’ve been at a higher weight and lower weight. I fear my body changing again. (Episode 116 with Sarah Thompson)

Are you healing your relationship with food and your body and are coming to the point of beginning to crave joyful movement and gentle nutrition, but are worried that delving into this part of the Food Peace™ journey will jeopardize your recovery? Are the people around you still stuck in diet culture, and you’re finding your relationship with them increasingly difficult as you move closer to Food Peace™? Listen now as special guest, Sarah Thompson, and I give our take on these Food Peace™ challenges.

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The transcribed episode can be found here.

Episode’s Key Points:

  • Sarah Thompson joins us to break down this week’s letter!
  • Internalized weight stigma and diet culture are challenging to let go of, but it’s necessary to find peace with food and our bodies.
  • Fatphobia is SO entrenched in all of us, and it hurts everyone no matter our body size!
  • Everyone is indoctrinated into diet culture, especially those of us who have been socialized as women.
  • Family dynamics can play a big role in how we relate to food and our bodies, especially if as children we’re made to act in a parental role.
  • Embracing food and body actions that stereotypically have ties to dieting and restriction can be scary, but we don’t have to engage with joyful movement and gentle nutrition in a disordered way! They can be nourishing actions, and they don’t have to belong to diet culture.
  • Body changes can be triggering, and weight loss may make us feel like we’re betraying the fat-acceptance community. Body changes can also throw our body-acceptance process for a loop, making us have to start the process of embracing our new shape all over again. But body changes are inevitable!
  • Make sure that you’re aware of your privilege, and acknowledge it! Make room for marginalized voices.
  • We get to enjoy salads and movement without promising ourselves weight loss and without falling down a disordered rabbit hole.
  • The more that we heal our relationship with food, the less we will feel that foods are “healthy” or “unhealthy.”
  • There are people in larger bodies that have an active lifestyle! We DON’T have to be a small body to enjoy movement, and we don’t have to pursue movement for the sake of weight loss. Movement belongs to everyone!
  • We’re all continually doing our own work and finding our own path.

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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What will it take for me to have a normal relationship with food? {Ep 108}


Are you ready to let go of the food rules and embrace body acceptance, no matter your size? Is it time to cast aside the myths we’ve learned through diet culture about what we eat and what we look like? Listen now as I respond to a letter from someone ready to take those next steps.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • You CAN have a normal relationship with food! How do you do that? By placing the blame where it belongs: with society.
  • We live in a world where people judge body size, and where people make assumptions about what we eat based on our size… but this isn’t a true representation of the various experiences that people in ALL bodies have!
  • Most people of size are actually some of the MOST disciplined people out there due to years and years of trying to diet.
  • Weight Watchers just announced a special, free summer program for teens. This is a problem!! Dieting is the number one precursor for eating disorders, and the summer is a particularly vulnerable time.
  • The food we eat doesn’t dictate our moral value!
  • Losing weight and maintaining a smaller body size is about trying to find acceptance from the culture around us… but in reality, diets don’t provide long-term, true acceptance!
  • Diets give us the hope that we’ll be finally treated with respect and be able to participate in our lives to the fullest extent, in ways that we couldn’t before the weight loss. But this is a fantasy! First, losing weight doesn’t grant us these things automatically. And second, diets fail. Long-term intentional weight loss is virtually IMPOSSIBLE! And the diet industry knows it. They COUNT on repeat customers.
  • The blame is not on you. It’s on our world’s fatphobia. But there’s no simple cure for eradicating weight bias! So what have we got to do? We as individuals have to join together and take a stand, and that starts with acknowledging our own internalized fatphobia and rejecting it.
  • Practice respect and compassion with yourself, continue to place the blame on our society, continue to deconstruct your own bias, and eventually you’ll come to a place where you can call out the fatphobia around us. This is how we change the world for generations to come!

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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I feel so much shame around my binge eating and I can’t stop. {Ep 107}


Are you struggling with binge eating? Listen now for my tips to overcome shame and break out of this part of the Food Peace™ journey.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • People who binge are often overcome with shame, but shame doesn’t promote real and effective change! But there are ways to find Food Peace™ if you’re struggling with binge eating.
  • YOU don’t need to be fixed. The WORLD needs to be fixed!
  • Our eating choices aren’t largely about personal responsibility… it’s bigger than that.
  • Shame contributes to the compulsive feelings we may have around food. If we can cast aside that shame, we can move closer to health. But how do we take away our shame? It starts with embracing ourselves for exactly who we are, and giving ourselves permission.
  • What would happen if you gave yourself permission to binge eat or compulsively eat? Permission and respect will help strip away the shame associated with the behavior.
  • We don’t have to love where we are right now in our body size or our behavior, but we can make room to accept these things and embrace body respect.
  • Your weight doesn’t matter! You can’t tell anything about someone’s health by looking at their body weight.
  • Internalized fatphobia is likely contributing to this shame you’re experiencing with binge eating. That means you need to break down this fatphobia, rather than pursue weight loss for health.
  • Weight loss is not a behavior. We have no long-term control over our weight. The more we try to lose weight, the more disconnected we become from our internal wisdom, the more shame we feel, and the farther from health we get.
  • Our body is WAY more complex than calories-in-calories-out! Food is so much more complex than good food and bad food.
  • Until you feel like you have unconditional permission to eat, ANY nutritional adjustments to our diet won’t stick! Plus, unconditional permission to eat will likely result is a more varied diet, which is more highly correlated with good health.
  • As parents, there are some things we can do to promote healthy eating:
    • Provide a variety of foods.
    • Have consistent meal and snack times to help with predictability.
    • Teach kids the pleasurable side of food.

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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Thank you for listening to the Love, Food series.

Will I ever feel free in my body? {Ep 102 with Meredith Noble}

How’s your Food Peace journey going? Pull up a chair and listen to a letter from a fellow traveler. This person has sworn off diets and stumbles when seeing their curves. Will this person ever feel free in their body? Listen now to hear my conversation with Meredith Noble, and get our tips on how to navigate this part of the Food Peace™ journey.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • The world needs to be fixed, and we need to eradicate diet culture!!
  • Opting out of diet culture is a constant process.
  • Meredith Noble comes on the show to talk about struggling with what we see in the mirror.
  • It’s so normal to understand anti-diet work on an intellectual level, but that doesn’t mean we’re integrating it into our lives.
  • Shame plays a big role!
  • We’re all trying our best to survive in this fatphobic culture… remember, it’s SO normal to feel the urge to go back to diets when we’ve been triggered because many of our struggles stem from this fatphobia.
  • Any work we’ve done before, even if we go back to dieting, is never wasted!
  • Many of us are fine with their bodies… until we see a photo of our bodies. When you feel triggered by a photo, try to change the focus from what your body looks like, to what you were feeling and experiencing in that moment.
  • Part of body acceptance is also making it a goal to look at bodies of all shapes and sizes, especially larger bodies. Instagram is a great resource for this! We can start to dismantle our own internalized fatphobia when we continually expose ourselves to the beauty of larger bodies.
  • It also may be helpful to look at photos of our OWN bodies more often. Take photos of yourself! Take selfies! Learn to appreciate them! And remember, don’t limit yourself to your “best” angles… look at yourself from ALL perspectives!!
  • You don’t need to be fixed… the WORLD needs to be fixed!

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

Click here to leave me a review in iTunes and subscribe. This type of kindness helps the show continue!

Thank you for listening to the Love, Food series.